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by Valeria Lipovetsky
Welcome to "Not Alone," a podcast where we dive deep into the stories that shape us. Hosted by Valeria Lipovetsky, this space is dedicated to revealing the raw, often unspoken challenges faced by women from all walks of life. Each episode invites you to listen to heartfelt conversations with inspiring guests who open up about their personal battles, breakthroughs, and the lessons learned along the way.Follow Valeria on Instagram, Youtube, and TikTok.
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- 2 days ago37 min
One Celine Dion Song Changed How I See My Mom | Not Alone
I was so busy needing my mom that I never stopped to see what she needed as a mother! It hit me in Paris, in the middle of a Céline Dion concert. She started singing "Because You Loved Me," the song my mom had me sing at my stepdad's birthday when I was 13. And suddenly all I could see was my mom's face. So I FaceTimed her, right there in the arena, and we both cried. My mom had me at 19. She wasn't always there, and it wasn't perfect. But now, as a mom of three myself, I look at her and I'm in awe of what she carried, with the tools she had, while she was still figuring out who she was. Psychologists call this filial maturity. I call it realizing your mom was just a girl. Then my son asked to watch his birthday vlog for his 8th birthday, and I found myself watching 28-year-old me through 36-year-old eyes. At the time, I was sure I wasn't doing a good job. Watching it now? I was doing so much more than I knew. Nobody tells you that part. This one's a voice note, so it goes everywhere. Why I'm officially part of the 6pm dinner club. The psychiatrist making the case for magic. And why I think a soft life could use a little fire. Tell me in the comments: when did you first see your mom as a woman? And subscribe, it's how more women like you find us. Check out our sponsor for this episode: PUORI: Third party tested supplements, screened for purity and contaminants. https://www.puori.com/valeria with code: VALERIA for 32% off your first order! Follow Valeria: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetsky Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/valerialipovetskyblog Follow Not Alone: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notalonepod/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@notalone.pod Podcast: https://www.notalonepod.com/ Shop my look from this episode: https://shopmy.us/shop/valerialipovetsky?tab=collections&Section_id=150649 Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/valerialipovetsky What we talked about: 0:00 – Trailer 1:22 – Welcome back to a Not Alone voice note 1:48 – Paris, and realizing I'm not 25 anymore 3:38 – My ideal night now: dinner at 6, in bed by 10 5:02 – Why 5:30 is the new 8:006:02 – Has anyone been to a nightclub lately? 6:32 – Céline Dion's comeback, and why every woman should watch her documentary 8:11 – The song that made me FaceTime my mom mid-concert 10:04 – The three chapters of how we see our parents 12:21 – Filial maturity: seeing your mom as a woman 13:51 – What did my mom get right? 15:24 – Watching our old family vlogs with my kids 18:35 – Matrescence: the second puberty nobody tells you about 20:04 – I wish I had footage of my mom 21:05 – Season of the Witch: a psychiatrist making the case for magic 25:43 – The trap of selflessness and the prison of likability 27:19 – Why we need to stop running from anger 29:20 – "You need to channel anger": a lesson from our coach 32:10 – A soft life and a little fire DISCLAIMER The links in this description are sponsor or affiliate links. If you make a purchase through these links, I may earn a credit or commission at no additional cost to you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
- 1 weeks ago1h 21m
Why You Shouldn't Get a Facelift in Your 30s | Giulianna Romero
"If I give you that, you'll look like an alien. A hot alien, but not you." That's what Giulianna Romero tells women who walk in with a photo of someone else's face. She's my injector, the one person I trust with my face, and the one who tells me no. I asked her everything I've wanted to know since I started Botox at 32. Why my feed is full of 32-year-olds getting facelifts, and why she completely disagrees. Why she says "fat is king," and pulling your skin back won't fix what's actually missing. How she can tell what anyone has had done, celebrities included. The story that stayed with me: in one week, three women sat in her chair, each wanting to look like the next. The last one said her own face was falling. Which is wild, because she was the one everyone wanted to look like. And the question every woman asks in that chair, whether it's her first time or her third? "When is enough, enough?" Even Giulianna asks it. Tell me in the comments if you've asked it too. And subscribe so more women like you find us. Follow Giulianna: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/undetectableinjector/ Skincare by Amy Peterson: https://www.skincarebyamypeterson.com/ Follow Valeria: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetsky Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/valerialipovetskyblog Follow Not Alone: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notalonepod/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@notalone.pod Podcast: https://www.notalonepod.com/ Shop my look from this episode: https://shopmy.us/shop/collections/8146316 Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/valerialipovetsky What we talked about: 0:00 – Trailer 1:30 – Meet Giulianna Romero, the injector Valeria trusts 2:50 – The shift from overfilled to natural aesthetics 5:56 – "You'll look like an alien": bringing in a celebrity photo 7:45 – Injector red flags: when to walk out 9:29 – Facial balancing, and why you never "fill a hole" 10:35 – Why a good injector tells you no 12:10 – Is preventative Botox real? 15:00 – Valeria's Botox, Renuva and growth factors 19:47 – Filler migration and dissolving with ultrasound 22:38 – How to know when it's too much filler 29:32 – 12 syringes, and why fat is king 31:17 – Facelifts in your 30s: why she disagrees 35:29 – The two ages your face really changes 39:07 – Skincare, diet and the basics 41:15 – How an injector spots filler and work 43:22 – Filters, camera angles and celebrity faces 47:58 – Celebrity transformations: what really changed 54:50 – Lasers, skin tightening and treatments gone wrong 59:23 – Who has the best work in Hollywood? 1:01:24 – Under-eye filler and what young women are fixing now 1:03:36 – Your 40s, and what won't age well 1:06:39 – Unhinged requests and facial balancing 1:09:06 – "You're not ugly, you're just poor": aesthetics on a budget 1:11:17 – Plastic surgery culture and being honest about work 1:17:46 – When is enough actually enough? Disclaimer: The links in this description are sponsor or affiliate links. If you make a purchase through these links I may earn a credit or commission at no additional cost to you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
- 2 weeks ago1h 3m
The Sleeping Pill That Sent My Mom to Rehab Was Prescribed to Me! | Lauren Sudeyko
You do everything right. The blackout curtains, the tracker, the supplements, the cold room. And you still wake up exhausted, check your sleep score, and somehow feel even worse. I know, because I started performing sleep instead of actually sleeping. Nobody tells you that part. I found Lauren Sudellko because a cherry-red box that looked like a pack of cigarettes stopped me mid-scroll. It turned out to be a sleep aid. I took it on a red-eye to Paris, it worked, and Gary and I wrote a check that same afternoon. Full transparency, we're now proud investors in Sleep or Die. But the reason I wanted her on Not Alone has nothing to do with the box. Lauren grew up watching her mom rely on prescription sleeping pills, which turned into an addiction and a few painful rehab stays. In her mid-20s, after a concussion, her own doctor handed her the very same pill. She looked at it and saw her future. Here's what I actually think. Women aren't sleeping, and the things we reach for to fix it are quietly making it worse. Every woman Lauren asked was taking something. One had been on Advil PM every night for two years. Sleep is the only thing you can't white-knuckle your way through. Which is wild, because white-knuckling is the one thing most of us are really good at. We got into sleepmaxxing and why optimizing your sleep can be the thing that ruins it, the melatonin myth, and whether we've made being tired a personality trait. There's also a strip club story. I did not make the rules. And then Lauren got emotional, which neither of us saw coming. We talked about chasing her parents' approval all the way to Google, feeling empty once she got there, and the LinkedIn post that ended her corporate self. This one is for the woman who hasn't slept properly in years and quietly ran out of things to try. And for anyone with an idea she can't stop thinking about. If this is you, tell me in the comments. And if it helped, subscribe, that's what tells the algorithm to bring more women like you here. Follow Lauren & Sleep or Die: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/haveyouslept/ Substack (Sleep or Die Diaries): https://laurensudeyko.substack.com/ Shop Sleep or Die: https://sleep-or-die.com/ Follow Valeria: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetsky Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/valerialipovetskyblog Follow Not Alone: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notalonepod/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@notalone.pod Podcast: https://www.notalonepod.com/ Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/valerialipovetsky What we talked about: 0:00 – Trailer 1:33 – Meet Lauren Sudeyko 3:05 – What is sleepmaxxing? 4:12 – How Valeria found Sleep or Die 6:13 – Lauren's mom and sleeping pill addiction 7:36 – Prescribed the same pill 20 years later 8:36 – Growing up with an exhausted mom 10:17 – Building a gentler sleep aid 12:07 – 1 in 3 adults can't sleep 12:51 – Why women struggle with sleep more 14:21 – Performing sleep instead of sleeping 16:41 – The melatonin myth 18:39 – What the sleep aisle gets wrong 25:05 – A world of well-rested women 27:02 – Is being tired a personality trait? 32:32 – Motherhood and sleep 36:06 – Making sleep sexy 37:26 – Sending husbands to the strip club 38:47 – Raising $1M+ as a founder 41:10 – Fear vs. gut instinct 44:35 – The Jay Shetty story 47:03 – Letting go of approval 50:23 – Raising money is like dating 55:54 – The LinkedIn post that changed everything 59:08 – Rapid fire 1:00:23 – What women aren't saying out loud Disclosure: Valeria and Gary Lipovetsky are investors in Sleep or Die. Some links in this description are sponsor or affiliate links. If you make a purchase through these links, I may earn a credit or commission at no additional cost to you. #NotAlonePodcast #ValeriaLipovetsky #Sleepmaxxing #WomensHealth #SleepOrDie Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
- 3 weeks ago1h 19m
At 14 My Mom Wasn’t Coming Back. So I Became Our First Millionaire | Jun Yuh
You learned early that it was all on you, so you worked harder than everyone around you, and it worked. Somewhere along the way you stopped asking what you were actually trying to prove, or who it was ever for. I know, because I've done it too. When I started learning Jun Yuh's story, I kept finding my own in it. We were both raised by one parent, and for me, it was my father who wasn't in the picture. For Jun, it was his mom. His parents divorced over the phone, he didn't speak to her for ten years, and at 14 he decided it was up to him to figure it out for his family. Years later, he became their first millionaire. He didn't touch the money for a year and a half, because he'd watched it break his family apart. When he did, it went to clearing $400K of family debt. Not a single splurge on himself. And the pain carried him a long way. He chose biomedical engineering because it was the hardest thing he could think of, and did his bachelor's and master's at the same time. In his words, a trauma response is only going to take you so far. He found that out the hard way, close to his first burnout. Here's what I actually think. We call that kind of drive discipline, and we admire it. But a lot of the time, it's pain that learned how to look productive. For Jun, what shifted it was his mom. One phone call turned ten years of anger into forgiveness, and a dinner in Korea after graduation finally had his whole family saying everything out loud. The drive didn't go away. It just started coming from love instead. He has also never done therapy. I'm calling him in ten years. We got into his faith, and why surrender is what keeps him steady. The girlfriend who calls him out when he isn't showing up at home. His one rule for telling his story: only ever tell your own. And the stretch, months after losing his grandma, that left him disconnected from his own drive. And the part I keep coming back to. He posted every day for two years before any of it was good. What stops most of us isn't the fear of failing, it's the fear of being seen. The art is in trying. This one's for anyone who grew up believing no one else was coming, and for anyone who has gotten really good at pushing themselves and doesn't know how to stop. If this is you, tell me in the comments. And if it helped, subscribe, that's what tells the algorithm to bring more people like you here. Follow Jun: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jun_yuh/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jun_yuh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@jun_yuh Creator Unplugged (podcast): https://www.youtube.com/@creatorunplugged Follow Valeria: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetsky Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/valerialipovetskyblog Follow Not Alone: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notalonepod/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@notalone.pod Podcast: https://www.notalonepod.com/ Shop my look from this episode: https://shopmy.us/shop/collections/7904912 Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/valerialipovetsky What we talked about: 0:00 – Trailer 4:29 – Jun Yuh on being raised by a single parent 6:10 – His parents divorced over the phone 8:50 – At 14, his mom wasn't coming back 9:47 – Has Jun Yuh done therapy? 10:25 – Reconnecting with his mom 13:02 – Family dinner in Korea and forgiveness 15:10 – Why content became his therapy 17:57 – Becoming his family's first millionaire 18:40 – Money mindset and scarcity 20:07 – $17M in 17 months 22:58 – Where Jun Yuh's drive comes from 24:08 – Surrender and discipline 28:44 – Outgrowing survival mode 31:01 – His why: taking care of his dad 34:12 – Faith and contentment 37:10 – Cringe early content 39:26 – The art is in trying 40:43 – The $49K business mistake 43:14 – Disconnected from his drive 47:25 – His girlfriend's accountability 52:01 – Storytelling boundaries 57:45 – The fear of being seen 59:54 – The three whys 1:08:56 – Jun Yuh's four daily wins 1:11:56 – Rapid fire 1:16:02 – Why we need more empathy ❤️ Subscribe for more videos https://www.youtube.com/ValeriaLipovetskychannel?sub_confirmation=1 ❤️ Where else you can find me: Instagram: https://instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetsky Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/valerialipovetskyblog/ Podcast: https://www.notalonepod.com/ Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/valerialipovetsky Disclaimer: The links in this description are sponsor or affiliate links. If you make a purchase through these links I may earn a credit or commission at no additional cost to you. #JunYuh #NotAlonePodcast #FirstMillionaire #SingleParent #ValeriaLipovetsky Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
- Oct 7, 202645 min
I Just Turned 36 and Decided to Start Living Differently. Here's Everything That Changed | Not Alone
It's just me today. No guest, no questions. Just me and everything that's been sitting in my head since my birthday. Here's the thing about turning 36. I thought I didn't want anything. No plans, no production, phone off, in my robe by 9pm. Then a small part of me panicked that maybe I was supposed to want more. And then the day fell apart on its own, nothing went the way it was meant to, and it landed as exactly what I needed. Which caught me off guard, because a year ago I would have planned the whole thing down to the minute and called that self-care. And that turned out to be the theme of the whole year, not just the day. I don't want every year of my life to be preparation for a better one that's always a little further up ahead. So in this one I get into the rest of it. The work summit where I walked into a room full of people who knew more than me, and for the first time the what-am-I-doing-here voice just didn't show up. The morning I realized I'd been checking an app to find out how I slept, when I was the one who slept. The strange freedom of not totally knowing who I am right now, and being more okay with that than I expected to be. And the three words I'm carrying into this year, which are very much not the ones I would have picked five years ago, back when my only word was more. Nobody tells you that the thing that got you here isn't always the thing that gets you where you're going next. That's the part I'm still in. This one's for the woman who did everything right and still feels like her real life is somewhere up ahead. You're not behind. You might just be allowed to enjoy the one you're already in. If that's you, tell me in the comments. And subscribe if you want more of these. It's the thing that tells the algorithm to send more women like you my way. FOLLOW VALERIA Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetsky Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/valerialipovetskyblog FOLLOW NOT ALONE Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/notalonepod TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@notalone.pod Podcast:https://www.notalonepod.com/ SHOP MY LOOK FROM THIS EPISODE https://shopmy.us/collections/8080430 AMAZON STOREFRONT https://www.amazon.com/shop/valerialipovetsky WHAT WE TALKED ABOUT 0:00 - Just me today, no guest1:00 - What I thought I wanted for my birthday2:30 - The day fell apart and became exactly what I needed4:00 - Don't celebrate me, but also celebrate me5:30 - Nobody can read your mind, not even a man in a chef costume7:00 - I can buy my own flowers, I just don't want to8:30 - Your partner needs the update10:00 - The investing panel, and the room full of people who knew more12:00 - The what-am-I-doing-here voice that finally went quiet14:00 - Qualified and a beginner in the same room15:30 - The opposite of a thought leader17:30 - Less sure of myself, and happier for it19:00 - The energy healer and the Oura ring21:00 - When taking care of myself turned into grading myself23:00 - My easygoing era was a performance25:00 - No is a complete sentence26:30 - The nails post, and what do you mean I have a choice28:00 - Rosh Hashanah, and the word around the table29:30 - The men said business, the women said play31:00 - Taking the permission to play, and booking Paris32:30 - The three words I'm carrying into this year34:00 - The thing that got you here isn't what gets you there next35:30 - You might just be allowed to enjoy the life you're in DISCLAIMER The links in this description are sponsor or affiliate links. If you make a purchase through these links, I may earn a credit or commission at no additional cost to you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
- Sep 30, 20261h 20m
Why Every Successful Woman Suddenly Wants to Blow Up Her Life | Krista Williams
You built the life you were supposed to want. The career, the wins, the whole thing. And lately you've been quietly wondering why you don't want it anymore, and then feeling insane for wondering, because nothing is technically wrong. You're not insane. It's happening to almost every woman I know. Krista posted a reel about it that went viral, and the second I saw it I thought, there it is. That's the thing. Every woman she knows is pivoting. Walking away from careers they spent a decade building, from lives that looked good from the outside, toward something they can't fully explain yet. And I couldn't scroll past it, because it's happening everywhere I turn. My friends. The group chats. Me. So I brought her in, because we had to talk about it. Here's what we got into. So much of what we've been calling ambition our whole lives was never ambition. It was a trauma response in a nice outfit. We performed. We over-functioned. We achieved, and got rewarded for it, and quietly ran ourselves into the ground doing it. Nobody tells you the thing that built your whole life can be the same thing making you disappear. We got into the difference between being called to leave something and just running from it, because they feel identical and they are not the same thing. The pieces of ourselves we left behind chasing all of it, and how a lot of us are quietly going back to get her. And then female friendship, which is where I cried, because that's the part nobody prepares you for either. This one is for the woman quietly outgrowing her life who hasn't told a soul. The one running a life that fit her five years ago and doesn't anymore. And the one starting to suspect that the ambition that got her here isn't the thing that's going to take her where she actually wants to go. If this is you, tell me in the comments. And if it helped, subscribe. That's what tells the algorithm to bring more women like you here. FOLLOW KRISTA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristawilliams Almost 30: https://almost30.com/ FOLLOW VALERIA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetsky Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/valerialipovetskyblog FOLLOW NOT ALONE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notalonepod TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@notalone.pod Podcast: https://www.notalonepod.com/ SHOP THIS EPISODE Shop my look: https://shopmy.us/collections/7925852 Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/valerialipovetsky WHAT WE TALKED ABOUT 2:00 The pivot every woman is quietly making 3:08 The year and a half we've been circling this 4:30 Beyond achievement, beyond what everyone told me to be 5:42 When ambition is really a trauma response 7:03 Playing the roles: mom, wife, the woman who has it together 8:18 How our relationships are changing too 9:19 The marriage that ended at thirty-four 11:52 Why women are done performing 13:47 You don't have to fix everything 16:24 What the twenty-year-olds are eating up 18:30 I want visibility: the wanting we perform at work 20:58 I love everybody, I'm having the best time (are you?) 22:22 Giving your emotions to your little girl 25:00 Sometimes it's a gift, sometimes it's a lot 28:20 What her flow actually looks like 30:40 The leadership coach, and doing the work 33:00 Called to leave, or running away? They feel identical 33:59 What do I actually want? 35:15 Why the saying-no conversation triggers her 36:07 Can I? Should I? Do I even want to? 38:40 Loneliness, and what it's really telling you 40:00 How to truthfully answer what you want 43:50 You're becoming a whole new woman 45:53 Watching it happen to the women around her 48:48 The divorce phase, and coming out the other side 51:20 How she showed up in the hardest times 54:00 The premonition, and trusting what she knew 57:36 Holding good and grateful and still wanting more 1:00:00 Female friendship, and learning how to receive love 1:02:30 When we feel like we're overdoing something 1:05:00 Her village of women 1:07:17 Making your next choice a soulful one 1:08:30 The women over fifty living the most beautiful lives 1:10:54 A decade in spirituality, and what it taught her 1:13:00 The need to optimize, and letting it go 1:15:00 Rapid fire 1:16:00 What women aren't saying out loud Disclaimer: The links in this description are sponsor or affiliate links. If you make a purchase through these links, I may earn a credit or commission at no additional cost to you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
- Sep 23, 20261h 26m
The Real Reason So Many Kids Are Struggling Today | Dr. Milobsky
A four-year-old boy who can't sit still for circle time used to just be a four-year-old boy. Now it's an evaluation, a diagnosis, a meeting where you nod politely and then cry in the car. That's where this conversation started, and it's the one I've been wanting to have for a long time. I'm a mother of three boys, and Dr. Michael Milobsky said the thing I've felt in my body for years: most of the boys who end up in his office are completely normal. The label is the problem, not the boy. He's a pediatrician of thirty years and a father of seven, and he told me he learned more from raising his own kids than from any of his training. He changed my mind on things I walked in sure about, which I don't say often. We get into why our boys are in crisis and what mislabeling does to a boy by the time he's fourteen. What our daughters actually need to grow up confident, which is not the conversation girl moms are being handed. Why he calls ADHD an operating system and not a disorder. And the one thing a father gives a child that a mother can't, which, to my surprise, is not discipline. It's regulation. Then it turned, the way the best ones do. He told me about the pain he carried in his body for years and refused to look at, until it cost him his leg, and what he found waiting on the other side of finally listening to it. His line for it: losing his leg let him grow wings. I came into this conversation thinking about my children. I left it thinking about myself. This is for the mother who has been told her child has a problem. For the one quietly certain she's doing all of this wrong. For the one who keeps promising she'll get to herself later. Our kids are not broken. A lot of what we're labeling in them is really just what we haven't looked at in ourselves, and you being okay is the single most powerful thing you'll ever give them. This is Dr. Michael Milobsky. New episodes of Not Alone every Wednesday. Subscribe so you never miss one. Follow Dr. Michael: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr_michael_milobsky TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr_mikem Your Kids Will Be Fine (podcast): https://www.youtube.com/@Dr_Michael_Milobsky Chicken Soup Concierge Care: https://www.chickensoupdenver.com/ Follow Valeria: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetsky Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/valerialipovetskyblog Shop my look from this episode: https://shopmy.us/collections/7798209 Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/valerialipovetsky What we talked about: 2:06 How I found him, and why I manifested this conversation 2:47 The one parenting book I threw across the room 3:53 Why boys are in trouble right now 4:31 The normal boys getting labeled as a problem 5:10 Boy brains and girl brains are on different timelines 5:34 What actually changed inside the schools 7:00 What boys really need between three and five 8:42 What a label at four does to a boy at fourteen 10:06 Mislabeled boys grow into angry men 10:47 What Denmark gets right about early childhood 11:32 How to make up for it if your kids are past that window 12:04 The five things every kid needs, starting with a third place 13:03 Boredom is a skill now 13:39 Why we stopped letting our kids risk and fail 14:20 Why did we become this way? 14:56 The culture of safetyism, and the phone as an umbilical cord 19:11 Our parents were submarines 20:02 How our own anxiety gets passed straight to our kids 20:48 The demotion, and whether mothers do this more 21:32 The most important skill: learning to apologize to your kids 22:11 When mothers need to step back, starting when they walk 23:19 Why stepping back gets harder as they get older 24:43 The unresolved wounds we parent from 25:22 What's happening with our daughters that nobody's naming 26:49 The girl I was scared to raise 27:13 How a daughter absorbs her mother's emotional weather 27:31 The two modes so many men were raised with 29:10 The unique thing a mother and father each give a daughter 33:00 The five things, and why all roads lead to the phone 34:29 The right age for a smartphone 35:25 Why it has to be collective, not one family on an island 36:46 Shabbat, and the power of a weekly reset 37:00 ADHD is not a disorder, it's an operating system 39:29 Should you get the diagnosis, and the label fear 40:30 The negative story kids write about themselves without one 41:13 Landing on the right professional, not just medication 43:30 The other things that look exactly like ADHD 46:19 Iron, omega-3, and vitamin D 49:11 What raising seven kids taught him that medical school didn't 50:19 Parenting anxiety, and the Lindsay Clancy case 53:41 Where do mothers actually go for help? 54:08 Postpartum depression is neurobiology, not weakness 1:00:36 Why we're the most lost generation, and the village we lost 1:02:22 The night-nurse gift, and building each other a village 1:03:07 What a father gives that a mother can't: regulation 1:04:14 The two crayo
- Sep 16, 20261h 5m
The Real Reason You Keep Attracting the Wrong Men | Serena Kerrigan
You've been called too much your whole life. Too loud, too opinionated, too intense, too independent, too picky. You've done the work, sat through the dates, read the books, and still gone home wondering what's wrong with you. Nothing is wrong with you. You've just been looking in the wrong places. Serena Kerrigan spent six years as the loudest, most confident voice in the dating conversation, the woman millions turned to, and she almost didn't write her book because being single made her feel like a fraud. In this episode, she and Valeria get into the reframe that changed everything, and it's the same one that led Serena to the man she now lives with: she met him on a stranger's podcast, reading out a text from a guy who had ghosted her, and he told her she wasn't too much, she was just looking in the wrong places. They talk about why she invented a whole confident persona at eighteen because she was insecure, the year she went quiet building something no one could see, why the most successful women walk around in masculine energy that quietly keeps love out, and the dating advice she's had to fact-check now that she's actually in love. And the line every woman needs to hear: stop calling yourself picky. You're not picky. You're refusing to settle. You were the prize the whole time. New episodes of Not Alone every Wednesday. Subscribe so you never miss one. Follow Serena: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/serenakerrigan TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@serenakerrigan Her book, Let's F*cking Date: https://letsfuckingdate.com/ Follow Valeria: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetsky Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/valerialipovetskyblog Follow Not Alone: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notalonepod TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@notalone.pod Podcast: https://www.notalonepod.com/ Shop my look from this episode: https://shopmy.us/shop/collections/5542133 Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/valerialipovetsky What we talked about: 2:44 The book this isn't, and the book it actually is 3:31 Eighteen, insecure, and inventing SFK as armor 4:15 Standing at the mirror, saying the name out loud 5:17 When confidence starts as a performance 6:24 The night people were blown away that she stopped caring 7:04 I'm actually a sensitive person and an empath 8:30 When the persona became a crutch 9:27 The fine line of knowing when to turn it on 10:29 What guy is going to want to deal with that? 11:07 Altering yourself before you even walk into the date 12:21 Holding up mirrors to yourself 12:47 Going back to figure out what wasn't working 13:07 I didn't think I was worthy of a relationship 13:49 Deciding to show up as herself, not the persona 14:03 Why she walked away to write the book 14:56 When she finally felt like she figured it out 16:09 Calling her agent: what if I wrote a dating book? 17:20 I'm going to stop editing myself 17:38 On a stranger's podcast, reading out the text that ghosted her 18:06 For the right guy, you'll be the perfect amount 18:43 Meeting the man who saw the soft person underneath 19:22 What to actually look for: feeling safe 19:48 When you don't trust yourself around someone 20:40 When you meet the right person, the anxiety goes quiet 21:08 The daddy issues reframe, and the not-enough wound 22:04 The older man, and what she was really chasing 22:46 Whatever you want, that's fine: losing herself on dates 23:12 The dating advice she's had to fact-check now 24:06 The wall she put up when it was actually going well 25:21 Both of you still figuring out who you are 26:54 The three Ps: become the prize, enjoy the ride, never settle 27:32 We're so hard on ourselves 28:16 It's not men are trash, and it's not mason jar affirmations 29:37 The only thing you can control is how you show up 30:34 When was the last time you did something outside your comfort zone? 31:29 Writing the book was the most uncomfortable thing 32:04 A beautiful Miami story 33:28 Why stepping outside your comfort zone changes everything 34:50 You have to be outside, meeting people 35:18 You're most magnetic in your own energy 35:50 Why the modern woman keeps love out with masculine armor 40:00 Stop calling yourself picky. You're refusing to settle 45:00 Rapid fire 50:00 What women aren't saying out loud Disclaimer: The links in this description are sponsor or affiliate links. If you make a purchase through these links, I may earn a credit or commission at no additional cost to you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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