Your Behavior Is Not Who You Are: Self-Sabotage, Trauma, & Healing w/ Elani Engelken (Part 2)

Welcome to Part 2 of this powerful conversation with depth psychotherapist and somatic practitioner Elani Engelken.If Part 1 helped you understand why alcohol can become a form of regulation, this episode takes it a step further. We get into the deeper healing work: intuition, dissociation, freeze states, trauma responses, self-sabotage, and why your behavior is not the same thing as your identity.This is the kind of conversation that makes you stop and go,“Wait… that explains so much.”We talk about why so many of us stay disconnected from our bodies, how old survival patterns can quietly run the show, and what it actually takes to heal without shaming yourself in the process.If you’ve ever wondered why you keep repeating patterns even when you know better — this episode is for you.In this episode, we talk about:how intuition shows up in the bodytrauma responses like fight, flight, fawn, and freezewhat dissociation can look like in everyday lifewhy some people live in a “functional freeze” statehow healing happens when safety is finally presentwhy self-sabotage is often a symptom, not the real issuehow unresolved pain can show up through chaos, drinking, and repeated patternsthe power of reparenting, support, and being deeply seenwhy the right healing path should both challenge you and speak to youFavorite takeaway:Your behavior is not who you are.It’s often the clue pointing to the part of you that needs care, support, and healing.Connect with Elani:Elani Engelken is a depth psychotherapist and somatic healer whose work sits at the intersection of nervous system science, depth psychology, and embodied healing. She works with individuals, couples, families, and groups to explore the patterns that live beneath the surface, in the body, in the lineage, and in relationship. She is particularly drawn to the places where psychology and the sacred meet.Learn more at elaninicole.com or check out her podcast A Little Bit Psychic🚀 READY TO ACTUALLY CHANGE YOUR DRINKING?This is exactly why I created my Drinking Reset — to help you get back to the basics, understand your patterns, and uncover what’s really driving your habits.Not a sobriety program.Not restriction.Just real awareness, real tools, and real change.👉 Join the reset here.***Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and reflects personal opinions and lived experience. It is not medical, mental health, or addiction treatment advice and should not be used to diagnose or treat any condition. Always consult with a qualified healthcare or mental health professional about your specific situation before making changes to your drinking, medications, or treatment.***