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Leah Ruppanner is a no-nonsense Sociologist from the University of Melbourne on a mission to dispel society’s biggest and most divisive gender myths. In MissPerceived, Leah will tackle pervasive questions and draw upon decades of academic research and evidence to debunk the gender myths that benefit no one - showing that women aren’t better than men at seeing mess or multitasking, and that men aren’t bumbling caregivers who can’t change a diaper or find the keys. MissPerceived will show how as a society we use these myths to explain gender inequality and maintain the status quo. Leah doesn’t shy away from tough topics and touches on all those messy conversations about life including sex, relationships, work, parenting, and self-help. MissPerceived showcases how we got here, where we need to go next, and how to get there. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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- 5 days ago7 min
The Super Simple Trick That Can Lighten Your Mental Load
Can teaching your kids to notice mess actually lighten your mental load? In this episode of MissPerceived, Professor Leah Ruppanner shares a simple, viral tip from her friend Kate Mangino's Good Housekeeping article that's already resonating with thousands online.The idea is deceptively simple: we're not born noticing mess, disorder, or what needs to be done — we're taught to notice it. Kate's solution? Walk her kids around the house and ask them what they see as a problem. It didn't work perfectly at first, but over time, her children learned to notice what needed doing without being asked — and even started noticing different things at other people's houses, building empathy along the way.Leah connects this to her own research on the "messy house study" and the double standard men and women face around mess — including the surprising finding that men do see the mess just as clearly as women do. The real gap isn't perception, it's the emotional weight of noticing and feeling responsible for fixing it. This short but powerful episode gives you one concrete, doable tool to start redistributing that invisible mental load today.Chapters:00:00 Introduction — a tip from Kate Mangino that went viral01:00 We're not born noticing mess — we're trained to02:22 Teaching kids to notice: what Kate Mangino's family experiment looked like03:00 Why noticing at other people's houses builds empathy03:30 The gender socialization behind who notices what04:44 Leah's own research: men see the mess just as much as women05:30 Why "noticing" is really about emotional labor, not perception06:00 How to try this with your own familyResources Mentioned:📰 Kate Mangino's article in Good Housekeeping on teaching kids to notice housework📘 Drained: Reduce Your Mental Load to Do Less and Be More by Professor Leah Ruppanner🧠 Free Mental Load Assessment — Lighten Lab (lightenlab.com)Stay Connected with Leah:Instagram: @prof.leahruppannerInstagram: @lightenlabTikTok: @prof.leahruppannerWebsite: https://www.leahruppanner.comDon't miss an episode! Subscribe now: /@missperceivedpodcastAbout MissPerceived:MissPerceived is a weekly podcast hosted by Professor Leah Ruppanner, sociologist and author of Drained. Each week, Leah breaks down the gender myths and social systems shaping our lives — from mental load and caregiving to work, relationships, and identity. No PhD required. Just come hang out.As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases. This description contains affiliate links.#MissPerceived #MentalLoad #Drained #ProfLeahRuppanner #Parenting #DomesticLaborFollow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
- 1 weeks ago13 min
Youth Sports are Big Business and Here's What It's Costing Parents
Friday Night Lights, weekly spirit-day outfits, tailgates, private coaches, group chats tracking every practice and sign-up — Professor Leah Ruppanner just moved back to the US after 13 years in Australia, and youth sports culture hit her like a truck. In this episode of MissPerceived, Leah unpacks how American youth sports have become a multi-thousand-dollar investment in kids' "dreams," why it's a hedge that rarely pays off, and how it quietly reshapes the family mental load — including sharp gender divides in which sports (and which kids) actually get the resources.Leah shares stories from her own daughter's flag football season, contrasts American sports culture with the more community-focused, less commercialized approach she saw in Australia, and dives into research showing that while dads are often the ones handling sports logistics and correspondence, moms still end up doing the invisible cleanup work when something falls through the cracks. She also introduces a live research project on where your family's school and extracurricular correspondence is really coming from — and invites you to be part of the data.Chapters:00:00 Introduction — back in the US and immersed in Southern sports culture01:30 A new research project: where is your correspondence coming from?02:26 Why dads often take the lead on sports logistics (and where it breaks down)04:45 Youth sports as a "lottery investment" in your child's future07:11 Friday Night Lights: money, tailgates, and weekly spirit outfits09:11 The gender gap: cheerleaders, flag football, and unequal investment09:34 Comparing US and Australian sports culture11:50 How you can contribute to Leah's live research on sports and the mental loadResources Mentioned:Drained: Reduce Your Mental Load to Do Less and Be More by Professor Leah RuppannerFree Mental Load Assessment — Lighten Lab (lightenlab.com) Upcoming survey: share your experience with youth sports and the mental loadStay Connected with Leah:Instagram: @prof.leahruppannerInstagram: @lightenlabTikTok: @prof.leahruppannerWebsite: https://www.leahruppanner.comDon't miss an episode! Subscribe now: /@missperceivedpodcastFollow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
- 2 weeks ago15 min
"The Mental Load Isn't Real" — Debunking the Internet's Favorite Comment
"The mental load doesn't exist. It's just something women made up to make men feel bad." If you talk about the mental load online, you've seen this comment — and in this episode of MissPerceived, Professor Leah Ruppanner takes it head on.Leah unpacks why this response shows up constantly (and mostly from men) whenever she, Morgan Cutlip, or Zach Watson post about the mental load, and why the discomfort behind it actually proves the point. She traces the mental load back to 1970s research, redefines it as emotional thinking work (not just remembering things, but remembering things while carrying the anxiety of what happens if you forget), and explains why everyone — including the guy leaving the comment — carries a mental load, just distributed differently.The episode also dives into a powerful listener comment about "linear" versus "messy middle" mental load: the privilege of simply thinking something and doing it, versus the exhausting work of anticipating, monitoring, and juggling a hundred what-ifs that never fully resolve. Leah connects this to her seven mental load stages from Drained and makes the case for why acknowledging invisible labor — at home and at work — is the first step to sharing it.Chapters:00:00 Introduction — becoming an "influencer" and reading the comments01:00 The comment that keeps showing up: "the mental load isn't real"02:16 Where the mental load term actually comes from (hint: the 1970s)04:30 Redefining the mental load as emotional thinking work06:48 Why everyone carries a mental load — just a different composition09:06 Eloise's comment: linear mental load vs. the "messy middle"11:23 Why moving through tasks without worry is actually a privilege13:39 How to acknowledge invisible labor and start sharing itResources Mentioned:📘 Drained: Reduce Your Mental Load to Do Less and Be More by Professor Leah Ruppanner🧠 Free Mental Load Assessment — Lighten Lab (lightenlab.com)📄 Research: Leah Ruppanner, Liz Dean, and Brendan Churchill on the emotional thinking work definition of the mental loadStay Connected with Leah:Instagram: @prof.leahruppannerInstagram: @lightenlabTikTok: @prof.leahruppannerWebsite: https://www.leahruppanner.comDon't miss an episode! Subscribe now: /@missperceivedpodcastAbout MissPerceived:MissPerceived is a weekly podcast hosted by Professor Leah Ruppanner, sociologist and author of Drained. Each week, Leah breaks down the gender myths and social systems shaping our lives — from mental load and caregiving to work, relationships, and identity. No PhD required. Just come hang out.#MissPerceived #MentalLoad #Drained #ProfLeahRuppanner #GenderEquality #RelationshipsFollow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
- 3 weeks ago17 min
The Hidden Mental Load of Grandparents Raising Grandchildren
What happens when caregiving never ends — when you cared for your siblings as a child, your own children as an adult, and now your grandchildren in older age?In this episode of MissPerceived, Professor Leah Ruppanner discusses Grandmothering While Black: A 21st Century Story of Love, Coercion, and Survival by Lashonda Pittman, a powerful book based on interviews with over 75 Black grandmothers in Chicago raising their grandchildren. Leah unpacks the historical legacy of racism and family separation that shapes these caregiving arrangements today, the difference between multi-generational and “skipped generation” families, and the immense mental load these grandmothers carry while navigating broken welfare, healthcare, and housing systems — sometimes even having to hide the fact that grandchildren live with them just to access resources.Leah connects this research to a much bigger question about care in every country: what do we lose when caregiving is coerced rather than chosen, and what would it look like if systems — not individual women — carried more of that weight?Chapters:00:00 Introduction — a book that stayed with Leah all weekend 02:16 Who is Lashonda Pittman, and what is Grandmothering While Black? 04:35 The historical legacy of removing children from Black and Indigenous families 06:53 Multi-generational vs. “skipped generation” families 08:56 Navigating broken systems: welfare, housing, and hidden caregiving 11:07 “There’s no break in the care” — a lifetime of caregiving across generations 13:00 Judy’s story: “I’m ready for a life” 13:31 What we lose when care is coerced instead of chosen 14:30 Sweden’s approach: care systems designed to free people, not trap them 15:30 A bigger question: why do we force caregivers to trade their ambitions?Resources Mentioned:📘 Grandmothering While Black: A 21st Century Story of Love, Coercion, and Survival by Lashonda Pittman 📘 Drained: Reduce Your Mental Load to Do Less and Be More by Professor Leah Ruppanner 🏛️ Better Life Lab — Story Fellows ProgramStay Connected with Leah:Instagram: @prof.leahruppanner Instagram: @lightenlab TikTok: @prof.leahruppanner Website: https://www.leahruppanner.comDon’t miss an episode! Subscribe now: /@missperceivedpodcastAbout MissPerceived:MissPerceived is a weekly podcast hosted by Professor Leah Ruppanner, sociologist and author of Drained. Each week, Leah breaks down the gender myths and social systems shaping our lives — from mental load and caregiving to work, relationships, and identity. No PhD required. Just come hang out.As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases. This description contains affiliate links.#MissPerceived #Caregiving #GrandparentsRaisingGrandchildren #MentalLoad #Drained #ProfLeahRuppannerFollow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
- Aug 18, 202616 min
Return-to-Office Is Pushing Women Out of Work
When employers demand that people return to the office full-time, who pays the biggest price?In this episode of MissPerceived, Professor Leah Ruppanner responds to a listener whose partner is being called back into the office — and whose family is already feeling the consequences. Leah explores what the research says about remote and flexible work, why it became essential for so many mothers’ employment during the pandemic, and why return-to-office mandates risk pushing women out of the workforce again.But flexibility is not a simple fix. Leah unpacks the flexibility paradox: working from home can help women stay employed and manage caregiving, but it can also stretch the workday into early mornings, late nights, and an exhausting always-on cycle of paid work, parenting, housework, and guilt.She also explains the unequal career trade-offs families make. Too often, women make career compromises “for the family,” while men are encouraged to accelerate their careers as breadwinners — even when both parents genuinely want more time with their children. The result is a gendered mental load, unequal long-term earnings, and a system that asks mothers to hold work and family together at once.Chapters:00:00 A listener asks: What happens when a partner is called back to the office?01:30 Why return-to-office mandates can hurt women’s careers02:20 Before COVID, men had greater access to remote and flexible work03:00 The pandemic’s “exposure effect” — proving work could happen outside the office04:39 How flexible work helped mothers remain employed06:44 Why working from home is essential — and why it is not enough07:30 The flexibility paradox: a resource that expands the workday09:06 Remote work, maternal guilt, and never being able to clock out10:00 The career trade-offs women make “for the family”11:25 Why men and women often make different work decisions for the same family13:44 Flexible work helps dads care more — without sacrificing their careers14:30 Class differences in who can access flexibility and who faces job disruption15:30 The gendered mental load of holding work and family togetherResearch Mentioned:📘 For the Family: How Class, Gender, and the Family Shape Women’s Work by Sarah Damaske📚 Research by Professor Heejung Chung on the “flexibility paradox”📊 Research by Leah Ruppanner, Kristin Landevar, Katie Collins, William Scarborough, Lauren Ryan, and Brendan Churchill on flexible work, caregiving, and employment📘 Drained: Reduce Your Mental Load to Do Less and Be More by Professor Leah RuppannerStay Connected with Leah:Instagram: @prof.leahruppannerInstagram: @lightenlabTikTok: @prof.leahruppannerWebsite: https://www.leahruppanner.comDon’t miss an episode! Subscribe now: /@missperceivedpodcastFollow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
- Aug 11, 202614 min
You Can’t “Strengths-Based” Your Way Out of a Broken System
What does a strengths-based approach actually mean — and when does it become another way of asking people to solve impossible problems alone?In this episode of MissPerceived, Professor Leah Ruppanner responds to a listener’s thoughtful question about why her work focuses so much on structural barriers, inequality, and the systems that make life heavier. Leah explains the value of identifying your strengths, resources, resilience, and community support — but also why strength alone cannot fix unaffordable childcare, inaccessible healthcare, discrimination, or a broken labor market.Through research on LGBTQIA+ families, the Mental Load Audit, and the sociological tension between structure and agency, Leah explores how we can use our existing strengths while still demanding collective solutions. You are powerful, resilient, and capable — but you were never meant to carry structural problems by yourself.Chapters:00:00 A listener asks: Where is the strengths-based approach?01:30 What “strengths-based” actually means02:23 Strengths-based vs. deficit-based thinking03:00 The Mental Load Audit as a practical strengths-based tool04:46 LGBTQIA+ families, shared experience, and community as a resource07:06 The problem with “just try harder”08:00 Why individual resilience can’t solve structural inequality09:19 Structure and agency: what is yours to carry — and what is not?10:00 Asking for help, sharing the burden, and building coalitions11:42 Why lived experience is valuable research and knowledge12:30 How we change systems without carrying the whole world aloneResources Mentioned:📘 Drained: Reduce Your Mental Load to Do Less and Be More🧠 Free Mental Load Assessment — Lighten Lab📱 Follow along on Instagram for research insights and mental-load toolsStay Connected with Leah:Instagram: @prof.leahruppannerInstagram: @lightenlabTikTok: @prof.leahruppannerWebsite: https://www.leahruppanner.comDon’t miss an episode! Subscribe now: /@missperceivedpodcastAbout MissPerceived:MissPerceived is a weekly podcast hosted by Professor Leah Ruppanner, sociologist and author of Drained. Each week, Leah explores the gender myths and social systems shaping our lives — from mental load and caregiving to work, relationships, and identity. No PhD required. Just come hang out.#MissPerceived #MentalLoad #StrengthsBasedApproach #Sociology #Drained #ProfLeahRuppanner #SocialChangeFollow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
- Aug 4, 202614 min
Why Women Use AI Less at Work (And Why That Really Matters)
Are you using AI at work — or quietly avoiding it? In this episode of MissPerceived, Leah digs into new research showing that women are about 25% less likely than men to adopt generative AI tools in their jobs. She explains what that means for careers, organizations, and the “brain” of AI itself, and why low female adoption could make AI less accurate for women’s experiences worldwide.Leah walks through findings from Harvard Business School on global gender gaps in AI use, explores how unsupervised learning means our data is literally training the AI brain, and shows what happens when most of that data comes from men and from rich, English‑speaking countries. She also unpacks the mental load behind women’s hesitation: environmental worries, ethics, stereotypes that say women who use AI are “less competent,” and the pressure to prove your worth without help. Finally, she shares her own experience using AI, why it sometimes feels like “beautiful nonsense,” and asks what kind of future of work we actually want.Chapters:00:00 Introduction — are you using AI at work?01:30 Future of Work Lab: automation vs. AI (what’s the difference?)02:17 Harvard Business School findings: women 25% less likely to use AI tools04:36 How your data trains the AI brain — and what happens when women are missing06:56 Global gaps: rich countries, English speakers, and who AI really “sees”07:30 Career consequences when women don’t adopt AI at the same rate08:00 Organizational losses when only some workers use AI08:50 Environmental and ethical worries as part of women’s mental load09:16 Code for Good Now study: women seen as less competent when they use AI11:45 Occupational sorting: why some jobs see more AI than others12:30 Leah’s own experience: when AI makes her brain “lazy”13:51 Generational differences: Millennials, Gen Z, Gen Alpha and tech skepticism14:30 What kind of future of work do we actually want — and who gets to shape it?Follow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
- Jul 28, 202621 min
I Was Just Diagnosed With Breast Cancer. Please Stop Saying These 5 Things.
When someone you love gets a cancer diagnosis, you want to say the right thing — but often, what comes out does the opposite. In this very personal episode of MissPerceived, Professor Leah Ruppanner steps away from the research for a moment to talk about her own recent diagnosis of breast cancer, and the wildly inappropriate (but often well‑intentioned) things people say in response. She shares the five big “please don’t”s she keeps hearing — plus what actually helps when someone is living through cancer or another serious chronic illness.This isn’t about shaming anyone. Leah talks about the times she’s said these exact things to friends, why they come from fear and grief, and how we can all do better at holding space, dumping love in instead of out, and making it easier (not harder) for the person at the center of the storm.Chapters:00:00 Why this episode is different — Leah’s breast cancer diagnosis02:28 Don’t tell me about someone else’s cancer story (especially the worst‑case ones)04:36 Why other people’s stories shift the spotlight away from the person who’s sick05:30 Don’t ask “what stage is it?” or quiz my screening history06:59 The hidden message in “when was your last mammogram?”09:22 When my diagnosis triggers your own fear: sharing your medical history11:25 “I have a good feeling, you’ll be fine” — why that shuts down real feelings13:46 Questioning medical advice when you’re not the oncologist16:03 What actually helps: holding space, listening, asking what’s needed18:14 Learning to slow down, receive care, and feel the collective loveWhat to say instead (Leah’s script you can steal):“This sucks. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.”“What do you need right now?”“How can I help?”“You don’t have to respond, but I’m thinking of you and I love you.”“I can call anytime — you don’t have to pick up.”Resources Mentioned:📘 Drained: Reduce Your Mental Load to Do Less and Be More🧠 More on the mental load and chronic illness in other MissPerceived episodesStay Connected with Leah:Instagram: @prof.leahruppannerTikTok: @prof.leahruppannerEmail: getcrafty@audiocrafty.comWebsite: https://www.leahruppanner.comFollow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
About MissPerceived
Leah Ruppanner is a no-nonsense Sociologist from the University of Melbourne on a mission to dispel society’s biggest and most divisive gender myths. In MissPerceived, Leah will tackle pervasive questions and draw upon decades of academic research and evidence to debunk the gender myths that benefit no one - showing that women aren’t better than men at seeing mess or multitasking, and that men aren’t bumbling caregivers who can’t change a diaper or find the keys. MissPerceived will show how as a society we use these myths to explain gender inequality and maintain the status quo. Leah doesn’t shy away from tough topics and touches on all those messy conversations about life including sex, relationships, work, parenting, and self-help. MissPerceived showcases how we got here, where we need to go next, and how to get there. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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