EP 181 — The Mirror: What Do the People You Judge Say About You? | Ger & Rob

Why do certain people piss us off so much — and what if our reaction says more about us than it does about them? In this episode, Ger, Rob and I explore the psychological idea of “the mirror”: that some of the traits we judge most harshly in other people can reflect our own fears, insecurities, values or parts of ourselves we've learned to reject. If you can't stand lazy people, are you terrified of becoming lazy yourself? If you judge people for wasting their potential, is it because you're scared you're wasting yours? If weakness makes you uncomfortable, were you ever actually allowed to be weak? We take the conversation back to childhood and look at where these beliefs begin — what we were praised for, what we were criticised for, the types of people our families looked down on, and the unwritten rules we may still be carrying into adulthood. We get into:The people we instantly judge — and whyPsychological projection and “the mirror”What our biggest triggers might reveal about usChildhood conditioning and family beliefsJudging laziness, weight, weakness and attention-seekingSuccess, ambition and wasted potentialMoney, status and feeling superior or inferiorWhen criticism is actually disguised envyWhy we struggle with traits we don't allow in ourselvesWhether our judgments are really our ownWhat we're most afraid of becomingLearning to turn the judgment back on ourselvesA conversation about ego, insecurity, childhood, self-awareness and having the courage to ask an uncomfortable question: What does the way I judge other people reveal about me?