EP 86: Everything We've Been Told About Resilience Is Wrong with Jay Abbasi

What if everything you've been taught about resilience is actually making you less of it?In this episode I sit down with Jay Abbasi — global keynote speaker, TEDx speaker, former Tesla leader and host of the Unstuck podcast — to completely reframe how we think about pressure, resilience and what it actually means to thrive. Because the version of resilience most of us have been sold about keep going, push through, don't show weakness, is not resilience at all.Jay brings a rare combination of high-pressure corporate experience and deep expertise in mindfulness and neuroscience, and he is one of the most genuinely thoughtful guests we have had on this show. We get into his formula for real resilience, why people pleasing is actually a selfish act, the difference between being a superhero and a captain of the ship, and the story of what happened when his long-awaited TEDx talk couldn't be published and how he responded. This one is rich, practical and full of reframes that will stay with you.Key TopicsWhy the traditional definition of resilience is nonsense and what it actually requiresJay's formula: energy plus space plus choice equals resilienceThe difference between being a superhero leader and being the captain of the shipWhy people pleasing is not selfless — it is self-servingThe Victor Frankl quote that changed how Jay thinks about pressure and presenceWhy curiosity and effective communication will be the most critical leadership skills in the AI eraWhat Jay's TEDx talk story taught him about bouncing back from unexpected adversityWhy trusting your intuition requires stillness and how to cultivate itAbout JayJay Abbasi is a global keynote speaker, TEDx speaker, coach and host of the top-rated podcast Unstuck with Jay Abbasi. A former Tesla leader who built and led national training programs for over a thousand employees, Jay has since coached leaders at Google, Amazon, TikTok and Wells Fargo. Blending corporate experience with deep expertise in mindfulness, resilience and wellbeing, Jay's message is that success isn't about avoiding challenges — it's about mastering them with clarity, energy and purpose. He has been featured in Forbes, Authority Magazine and Medium, and is based in New Jersey.Connect with JayLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jayabbasi Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jayabbasi_ Website: https://jayabbasi.me/ Podcast: Unstuck with Jay Abbasi — available on YouTube and all podcast platformsKeywordsresilience, leadership, high performance, burnout, pressure, mindfulness, self-awareness, curiosity, communication, intuition