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by Andrew Stolpestad, Paul Wandrey
Andrew, an aspiring dad, and Paul, a dad of two, dig deep to find out what it means to be/become the best dad possible, why it matters, and how to do so.
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- 1 weeks ago44 min
Duosode 55: This one stumped us
In this episode of Why, Dad?, Andrew kicks off the conversation by asking Paul a simple question after a weekend of yard work: How important is it to teach our kids practical household skills? What begins as a discussion about landscaping and home maintenance quickly becomes a deeper conversation about fatherhood, intentionality, and the kind of men we hope to raise. Paul reflects on the tension many parents face—wanting to teach their children valuable life skills while recognizing that different seasons of life bring different priorities. Rather than focusing solely on whether children should know how to swing a hammer or operate a lawn mower, the conversation shifts toward the principles those activities develop: perseverance, problem-solving, responsibility, critical thinking, and humility. Using a role-playing game analogy, Paul explains that every man has different strengths. Just as every character in a game has a unique class and role, fathers shouldn't feel pressured to excel at everything. Some men are naturally handy, others excel financially, relationally, or professionally. The goal isn't to master every skill but to discover your strengths, continue growing, and contribute those gifts to your family and community. The conversation also explores the modern pressure to prepare children for every possible scenario. Paul and Andrew argue that no parent can equip their children for every future challenge. Instead, parents should focus on teaching their children how to think rather than simply what to know. Practical skills matter, but the ability to evaluate situations, weigh tradeoffs, solve problems, and seek help when needed will serve them for a lifetime. Throughout the discussion, the hosts emphasize the importance of balance. Whether it's maintaining a home, pursuing fitness, or raising children, striving for perfection often leads to frustration. A balanced, intentional approach—one that aligns with your family's values and your unique calling—is far more sustainable and meaningful than chasing unrealistic ideals presented on social media. The episode concludes with an invitation for every listener—whether you're a father, aspiring father, uncle, or mentor—to ask an important question: Who am I becoming, and how does that shape the people I'm leading? Ultimately, the greatest legacy we leave isn't teaching our kids how to complete every task around the house. It's helping them become capable, resilient, thoughtful people who know how to navigate life's challenges with wisdom, character, and confidence.
- 2 weeks ago45 min
Are Your Unconscious Beliefs Parenting Your Kids? | Tim Shurr
A lot of dads don’t have a motivation problem or a values problem. They have unconscious rules about responsibility, protection, and provision that keep them stuck in work mode, correction mode, or rescue mode, even when they’re home with the people they’re working so hard for. In this episode, Paul and Andrew sit down with Tim Shurr, a father, author, speaker, and expert in unconscious beliefs, to explore the hidden mental rules shaping how we parent, respond to stress, and connect with our kids. Tim explains why dads should spend less time telling children what not to do, how listening changes as kids grow older, and how parents can help children become resilient without protecting them from every painful experience. In this conversation: 🧠 How childhood beliefs become the rules governing our adult lives 👂 Why parenting older children requires more listening and less directing 🧭 How to tell children what to do instead of constantly telling them what not to do ❤️ Tim’s LUV framework: Listen, Understand, and Validate 🛡️ Why a parent’s job is not only to protect children, but to prepare them 🌱 How to intentionally build beliefs such as “I am loved,” “I am enough,” and “I can recover” 💨 Tim’s three-part resilience practice: breathe, ask better questions, and draw on useful resources 🪣 Why mindset techniques often fail when deeper unconscious beliefs remain unchanged 📱 How social media and AI can reinforce distorted stories rather than challenge them Key takeaways: • Misbehavior is often exploration, not merely defiance. • Children learn more from how their parents react than from what their parents say. • Resilience is a skill developed through repeated conversations and experiences, not a personality trait children either have or lack. • Constantly rescuing children may protect them from discomfort today while preventing them from learning how to navigate difficulty tomorrow. • Changing surface-level thoughts helps, but lasting change requires identifying the deeper beliefs driving those thoughts and behaviors. About Tim Shurr: Tim Shurr, MA, is a Mind Architect, author, speaker, father, and creator of the One Shift Away method. For nearly four decades, he has helped people identify and change the subconscious patterns influencing their performance, relationships, habits, and emotional well-being. Connect with Tim: One Belief Away Instagram LinkedIn YouTube Call to action: What is one rule you enforce with your children that you’ve never stopped to question? Share this episode with a dad who works hard for his family but sometimes struggles to leave work mode behind. Follow Why, Dad? and leave a rating or review to help more parents find these conversations.
- Jun 30, 20261h 0m
What the NBA Playoffs Taught Us About Raising Children | Fred Moss
A fake NBA news story sparked an hour-long conversation between Dr. Fred Moss and his adult son that had almost nothing to do with basketball. Instead, it became a conversation about truth, corruption, honesty, relationships, and the kind of connection every parent hopes to have with their children decades from now. We explore why lying, cheating, and stealing destroy trust, what it looks like to own your mistakes as a parent, and why the deepest father-child relationships are built through years of honest conversations—not perfect parenting. In this episode Dr. Fred Moss joins us for one of our most philosophical conversations yet. What begins as a discussion about an NBA playoff controversy quickly turns into something much bigger: truth, integrity, parenting, and how dads can build relationships that last well into adulthood. Fred shares stories about conversations with both his son and daughter, the lessons divorce taught him, why honesty matters more than being right, and how parents can repair relationships when they inevitably make mistakes. We discuss Why great conversations with your adult children don’t happen by accident How lying, cheating, and stealing quietly destroy relationships Why owning your mistakes is one of the greatest gifts a parent can give The importance of seeing every child—not just the loudest relationship Truth versus convenience in parenting and life The surprising ways sports can become conversations about humanity How AI is changing the way we think and work Resources Dr. Fred Moss Website: https://whoisdrfred.com Coaching & Programs: https://drfred360.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drfredmoss/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drfredmossmd Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drfredmoss/ Podcast: Welcome to Humanity
- Jun 23, 202638 min
A Paul Hot Take: Another Duosode
In this duosode of the Why Dad? podcast, Paul and Andrew discuss a parenting influencer whose videos sparked questions about discipline, physical punishment, and teaching children resilience. The conversation begins with an influencer who requires his young son to run suicides (sprint drills) to earn video game time and claims that raising children is "no different than training a dog." While Paul sees value in teaching responsibility and hard work, he is troubled by the comparison and by the use of physical punishment as a primary training method. Throughout the discussion, they explore several key questions: Is physical punishment an appropriate form of discipline? Should children have to "earn" privileges through difficult tasks? What's the difference between meaningful responsibility and arbitrary hardship? How do parents teach resilience without simply demanding obedience? Paul reflects on his own upbringing, acknowledging that he may sometimes overcorrect because of negative experiences with strict discipline. Andrew offers a counterbalance, noting that learning to work for rewards is an important life lesson and that children should understand that privileges are not automatic. As they unpack the issue, both agree that context and purpose matter. Teaching children responsibility, discipline, and perseverance can be valuable—but those lessons should be tied to meaningful goals rather than arbitrary demands. The biggest concern is whether a child is being taught to think and grow as a person or simply being conditioned to obey. The episode concludes with three major takeaways: Parents should regularly evaluate their boundaries and expectations to ensure they are consistent, justified, and serving a meaningful purpose. Social media rarely tells the full story, and it's important not to jump to conclusions based on short clips or limited information. Children deserve explanations, not just commands. Parents should be able to articulate why a rule, responsibility, or challenge exists rather than relying on "because I said so." Ultimately, Paul and Andrew argue that discipline should be intentional, purposeful, and aimed at developing resilient, thoughtful adults—not merely compliant children. The goal is to help kids learn how to face life's challenges while understanding the reasons behind the expectations placed upon them.
- Jun 16, 202652 min
What If Being a Better Dad Starts With Knowing Yourself?
Matthew Jandernoa believes many men know what the right thing is… but don’t really know their own hearts. In this conversation, we explore what happens when fatherhood exposes the parts of ourselves we’d rather avoid. We talk about frustration, patience, humility, comparison, healing, and why becoming a better dad starts long before becoming a dad at all. Matthew shares a powerful story from his time as a missionary that changed how he viewed himself forever, explains why “offer it up” never quite landed for him, and challenges us to stop focusing on our failures and start focusing on who we’re becoming. Along the way we discuss: 🔹 Why many fathers get trapped in self-criticism 🔹 The connection between patience and hope 🔹 How parents unintentionally teach learned helplessness 🔹 Why your children need space to struggle 🔹 The difference between trusting your heart and following every desire 🔹 How humility can actually increase life satisfaction 🔹 What it means to become the man your family needs This is a conversation about fatherhood, but it’s also a conversation about being human. Guest Matthew Jandernoa Founder of Steadfast Life, husband, father of two with a third on the way. Key Takeaways ⚡ You are not your failures. Focusing on your shortcomings creates a feedback loop that makes growth harder. ⚡ Patience is more than waiting. It’s an unwillingness to be overcome by suffering and the ability to see potential where it isn’t fully realized yet. ⚡ Children need opportunities to struggle. Constantly rescuing them teaches learned helplessness instead of resilience. ⚡ The heart contains both good desires and disordered desires. The goal isn’t suppressing the heart but helping direct it toward what is truly good. ⚡ Holiness and fatherhood aren’t destinations. They’re continual acts of returning to who you’re called to become. ⚡ Humility isn’t thinking less of yourself. It’s becoming genuinely happy when good things happen, whether or not they happen to you. Memorable Quotes “The Christian life is perpetual conversion back to God.” “Patience is an unwillingness to be overcome by sorrow.” “A good father would also be a good single person.” “The whole point of parenting is helping our kids aim what comes from the heart, not suppress it.” “Every time your wife or kids make you angry, it’s an opportunity to help them remember who they truly are.” Website: https://www.steadfastlife.net/
- Jun 9, 20261h 1m
The Final Cause of Education
Episode Summary In this episode of Why, Dad?, Paul and Andrew tackle a question every parent eventually faces: What is the real purpose of education? Starting with Paul's search for the best educational path for his children, the conversation quickly moves beyond public school vs. homeschool and into a deeper discussion about what education is actually supposed to accomplish. The hosts challenge the idea that education is simply about getting good grades, earning degrees, or preparing for a career. Instead, they explore whether true education should teach children: How to think critically How to learn independently How to pursue curiosity How to discover their unique gifts and potential How to become better human beings Along the way, they debate everything from homeschooling and public schools to trade education, college, AI, mathematics, and the difference between being "educated" and simply performing well in school. The conversation ultimately lands on a central idea: There is no one-size-fits-all educational path. The best education is the one that helps a child become the fullest version of themselves while cultivating a lifelong love of learning. For parents, the challenge isn't blindly trusting a system—it's staying engaged, asking questions, and helping their children discover how they learn best.
- Jun 2, 202648 min
Building Better Men: The Power of Modeling and Brotherhood | Shaun Dawson
Summary: How do we raise boys into good men when the world seems confused about what a good man even is? In this episode, Paul and Andrew sit down with Shaun Dawson, host of Raising Men, to talk about modern masculinity, brotherhood, emotional safety, ego in parenting, and what boys need from the men around them. Show Notes: How do we raise boys into good men when the world seems confused about what a good man even is? In this episode, Paul and Andrew sit down with Shaun Dawson, host of Raising Men, to talk about modern masculinity, brotherhood, emotional safety, ego in parenting, and what boys need from the men around them. Shaun shares a painfully relatable dad story about watching his son at basketball practice and realizing his frustration had more to do with his own ego than his son’s performance. From there, the conversation opens into a bigger question: what does it actually mean to model healthy masculinity for our kids? We talk about: • Why dads can get triggered when their kids struggle in public • The difference between preparing the child for the road and clearing every obstacle • Why men often want to open up but don’t feel safe doing it • How brotherhood has to be rebuilt intentionally • Why boys need worthy men around them, not just lectures about manhood • How fathers can create a “castle” where their families can thrive • Why cultivating excellence in our kids starts with cultivating it in ourselves Guest: Shaun Dawson is a husband, father of two, tech leader, and host of Raising Men, a podcast about parenting, masculinity, and raising sons into men of courage, character, and purpose. Links: Raising Men: https://raising.men/ About Shaun Dawson: https://raising.men/about-shaun-dawson Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1HdOjO18HibC17XnyrFOv5 Steve Biddulph: https://www.stevebiddulph.com/Site_1/Home.html Call to Action: If this episode made you think of a dad, uncle, coach, mentor, or friend who is trying to raise good men, send it their way. And if you’re enjoying Why, Dad?, follow the show and leave a review. It helps other dads find these conversations.
- May 26, 20261h 9m
Episode 48: Boundaries, Apologies, and Spit-Takes
This week on Why, Dad?, Paul and Andrew unpack a family vacation that turned into an unexpected lesson on parenting, boundaries, and community. After a few tense moments involving overtired kids, public meltdowns, and well-meaning corrections from close friends, the guys dive into a difficult but important question: What happens when the people who love your kids discipline them differently than you would? The conversation explores: Why words like “bad” and “naughty” can stick with kids longer than we realize The tension between setting firm boundaries and practicing empathy How parents and non-parents alike are all learning in real time Why correction should never threaten a child’s sense of being loved The importance of honest conversations between adults when conflict happens How growth — for kids and adults — comes through repetition, mistakes, and grace Along the way, Paul and Andrew reflect on the pressure parents feel to “get it right,” the value of having invested friends and family in your children’s lives, and why being a good dad, uncle, or mentor is less about perfection and more about showing up consistently. At its core, this episode is about learning how to raise kids together — even when perspectives collide.
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