Unwineding

how to get over a breakup: the psychology behind heartbreak & healing ft. Sabrina Bendory

April 28, 2026·47 min
Episode Description from the Publisher

Turns out we can’t rush healing…but we can understand it. Consider this episode your comprehensive breakup guide—Sabrina Bendory, author and relationship coach, is back on Unwineding and is breaking down the psychology of heartbreak so we can learn how to ACTUALLY heal and move on. Sabrina is helping us make sense of why heartbreak hurts so much and giving us tangible steps to heal without hardening. We talk about why breakups can feel like withdrawal, why you miss someone even when you know they’re not right for you, and why short-term relationships (or situationships) can sometimes hurt even more than long-term ones. Sabrina shares practical tools to help you move on, rebuild self-trust, and stop tying your worth to someone else’s inability to choose you. Whether you’re fresh out of a breakup or still holding onto something that ended a while ago, I promise this episode will help you feel less alone and more grounded in your healing process. We also chat:• the right (& wrong) way to get through a breakup• the psychology behind heartbreak and emotional pain• why heartbreak feels like physical pain• no contact: why it works and how to stick to it• why you still miss your ex (even when they weren’t right for you)• situationships and why they can be harder to get over• rebuilding self-worth and self-trust after a breakup• letting go of the “why wasn’t I enough?” narrative• healing without becoming closed off or guarded• how to stop romanticizing the beginning of a relationship If you’re in the middle of heartbreak right now, I hope this episode feels like a conversation with a friend who gets it—and reminds you that you will be okay. I PROMISE. As always, take whatever resonates & leave the rest. LOVE YOU. Listen to Sabrina's previous episode on Unwineding on mastering detachment & becoming magnetic SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Sabrina on Instagram follow Sabrina on TikTok follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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