Learning To Say No Without Guilt (EP 114)

This conversation picks up right where part one left off, but now we zoom in on Barb’s actual work helping overwhelmed professional women who say yes when they want to say no. She breaks down “internal safety” as the ability to have your own back when someone is upset with you or when that old guilt and negative self-talk shows up, instead of caving or beating yourself up for weeks. Barb drives home that boundaries aren’t about controlling other people, they’re about deciding what you will do and following through, even when it’s uncomfortable. We also get into people‑pleasing, codependency, perfectionism, and the burnout that shows up when you’re constantly pouring from an empty cup. Barb shares how she built self‑worth, self‑love, and self‑trust one decision and one boundary at a time, plus how reparenting work helped her “backfill” the love she didn’t get as a kid. She lays out practical first steps: starting with a boundary on your own self‑talk, practicing with easygoing people, and learning that discomfort doesn’t automatically mean danger. By the end, we’re talking Hallmark movies, Pellegrino with lemon, and how recovery even changes your taste buds. === Chapters 00:32 Part Two Begins 02:44 Boundaries Coaching Defined 05:48 What Internal Safety Means 14:47 Women, Burnout, and Self-Priority 18:51 Safety Comes From Within 23:19 Boundaries Prevent Burnout 27:54 Start With Self-Boundaries 31:12 Real Boundaries, Real Consequences 34:33 Discomfort Is Not Danger 41:13 Recovery Joys and Guilty Pleasures 44:47 Course on Internal Safety === Guest: Barb Nangle, Higher Power Coaching & Consulting Website: https://higherpowercc.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/barbnangle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/higherpowercoaching === Resources / Companies / Books / Podcasts Fragmented to Whole: (Podcast): https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Boundaries That Hold: How to Stop Overriding Yourself in Real Time (Course): https://higherpowercc.com/boundariesthathold Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) / Overeaters: https://www.aa.org Adult Children of Alcoholics / Dysfunctional Families (ACA): https://adultchildren.org Pellegrino (San Pellegrino Sparkling Water): https://amzn.to/4hqvfCE Hallmark Channel: https://www.hallmarkchannel.com Lifetime (TV Network): https://www.mylifetime.com === About the Unhealthy PodcastHosted by Marvin Bee (Uncle Marv), the Unhealthy Podcast dives into real conversations about health, wellness, and everyday habits that impact how we live, work, and age. From nutrition myths to stress management and tech-life balance, Uncle Marv brings humor, insight, and honesty to every episode.Visit our website: https://www.unhealthypodcast.com/ Connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/iamunclemarvConnect on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marvinbee/Follow and Subscribe: Stay updated with new episodes every week on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, and more. Join the conversation about real-life health, fitness, and personal growth from the lens of an everyday guy striving to be healthier.