Why Fearful Avoidants Can’t Let Go of Betrayal

Activate Your 7-day Free Trial and Instantly Unlock the Repair Trust & Overcome the Fear of Abandonment Course, Yours to Keep for Life: https://offer.personaldevelopmentschool.com/repair-trust?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=relationship-repair&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-09-16-26&el=podcast Have you ever forgiven someone… but still felt resentment every time you were around them? When someone you deeply trust lies, betrays you, or makes a choice that feels completely out of alignment with the person you thought they were, an apology may not be enough to make the relationship feel safe again. In this conversation, Thais Gibson sits down with Victoria Garrick Browne to explore what it actually takes to heal after betrayal, let go of longstanding resentment, and rebuild trust in a close relationship. They unpack why acknowledgment and accountability are only the beginning of repair, why understanding the context behind someone’s actions matters, and how trust is rebuilt through consistent behavior over time, not simply through saying “I’m sorry.” You’ll also discover how betrayal can lead you to question your own intuition, suppress your feelings, or grieve the future you thought you were going to have with someone. Thais explains why healing often begins by identifying where you may still be abandoning your own feelings, needs, boundaries, or truth. In this episode, you’ll learn: • Why some apologies still leave you feeling unresolved • The Four C’s of trust: Congruency, Consideration, Consistency, and Context • Why accountability is different from true relationship repair • How to communicate what you need after a betrayal • How to stop betraying yourself after someone else betrays you • Why you may be grieving the fantasy of a relationship—not only the relationship itself • How values and character changes can affect emotional safety • How trust can be rebuilt gradually through consistent actions TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 – Healing Grudges and Resentment 05:19 – How to Resolve Conflict After Betrayal 08:07 – The Four C’s of Trust 11:52 – Why Accountability Alone Isn’t Enough 31:27 – When a Relationship Changes After Trust Is Broken 36:11 – Are You Still Betraying Yourself? 46:19 – What Genuine Relationship Repair Looks Like 52:49 – Grieving the Future You Thought You’d Have 58:33 – The Five Levels of Closeness and Rebuilding Trust ABOUT VICTORIA GARRICK BROWNE: Victoria Garrick Browne is the host of Inner Childish. Connect with Victoria and explore more of her work below: Inner Childish: https://open.spotify.com/show/0RFZBETSom9yZQbkv1ZIYO?si=5fb89a0ae5bf47db Victoria Garrick Browne on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/victoriagarrickbrowne/ Meet Thais Thais Gibson, PhD, is a Best-Selling Author, Pastoral Counselor, Relationship Coach, and the founder of The Personal Development School (PDS). Between 2013 and 2019, she developed Integrated Attachment Theory® (IAT), the Six-Step Method to Becoming Secure, a framework rooted in neuroscience, attachment theory, psychology, and spirituality, trademarked in October 2021. IAT works across six pillars: ✔ Rewire Your Attachment Core Wounds ✔ Learn Your Attachment Needs ✔ Regulate Your Nervous System Somatically ✔ Learn Healthy Boundaries ✔ Improve Communication ✔ Rewire Your Unhealthy Protest Behaviors Since opening in 2020, PDS has grown to serve over 70,000 students in 145 countries, achieving a 97% satisfaction rate and helping people reprogram their subconscious patterns and build thriving, secure relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📘 Become an IAT Relationship Coach https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the New Attachment Theory Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/book/the-new-attachment-t