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The Tamsen Show

Is It the Relationship or Is It Menopause? Here's How to Tell

April 27, 2026·20 min
Episode Description from the Publisher

Relationships end at a dramatically higher rate during midlife, and a lot of the time, it's women who are walking away. But before you decide what this transition means for your relationship, there's something you need to understand first. In this episode, Tamsen gets honest about what this transition actually does to your closest relationships, including her own. Because the distance that grows between partners during this time is real, but it is not always what it looks like. Whether you've been snapping at your partner for reasons you can't fully explain, pulling away without knowing how to stop, or wondering if what you're feeling is this transition or something deeper, this episode meets you where you are. You'll learn: - Why the irritability and pulling away is hormonal and what your partner is experiencing on the other side of it - The difference between spontaneous and responsive desire and why understanding it changed everything for Tamsen's own marriage - What to actually say to your partner when you don't have the words yet - How to tell the difference between a relationship that needs attention and one that is genuinely over - What to hand your partner so you don't have to explain every piece of it yourself This episode is part of the How To Menopause series, where Tamsen goes deeper on each chapter of her book right here on the podcast. Less than twenty minutes, everything you need to know. Download for FREE: The Men's Guide To Menopause If you like this episode, then you will love: The Men’s Guide to Menopause, What Partners Need to Know and How to Help Stay connected with Tamsen: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Get ⁠Tamsen's newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠ filled with free tools⁠ to living better, feeling stronger, and knowing you’re never alone Get Tamsen’s NYT instant bestselling book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠How To Menopause⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Resources⁠⁠⁠⁠ from Tamsen  Watch all the episodes on ⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Tamsen on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠  The Tamsen Show on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Tamsen on ⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠  Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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