Episode 5: Limerence

In this 5th episode of Neurodivergent Struggles, Dr. Kojo Sarfo and Emily explore limerence, defined as an involuntary infatuation that leads to placing someone on a pedestal and loving the idea of them more than the reality. The co-host shares her experience of staying in a four-year relationship despite early red flags, realizing she was more in love with being in love than with the person himself. They discuss how limerence can feel especially powerful for individuals with ADHD and autism, who may struggle with connection and latch onto the attention and validation.The conversation dives into how undiagnosed neurodivergence, attachment styles, and family expectations can prolong unhealthy relationships. With an anxious and avoidant dynamic at play, they examine how these patterns repeat and why breaking them requires intentional boundaries. Dr. Kojo shares his personal rule of limiting early time spent together to avoid emotional overinvestment, while emphasizing the importance of setting realistic expectations and maintaining separate sources of dopamine and identity within relationships.The episode concludes with a discussion on autistic regression, explaining how years of masking can lead to burnout and a temporary loss of functioning that is often misunderstood as laziness. The hosts highlight the importance of awareness, boundaries, and understanding the nervous system when navigating relationships as a neurodivergent individual.Find us on all platforms at: @neurodivergentstruggles