What Your Anger Is Really Saying

What is your anger actually saying? My teacher Jun Po told me he has never known an angry person who did not care.Sit with that one. Anger is the bodyguard. It steps in to put something right, to stop it happening again, to defend what matters. Throw the hammer away and you have thrown away an emotion that evolution spent a very long time building. A child is furious about a red T-shirt when they wanted green, and to them the world just ended. When you are in a life where things go wrong fast, the gap between the spark and the fire shrinks. But it is a gap, and it can be widened.One thing to try: Instead of arguing, say six words. I see you care deeply. Why?In this episode(4:07) Throw away the hammer and you throw away the tool(5:20) A red T-shirt when they wanted green(7:49) Anger is the bodyguard that steps in(9:22) Do you really believe that, Steven(10:11) When there is no time between spark and reaction(11:29) There is a gap, and it does not have to become a fire(14:09) I see you care deeply. Tell me why(15:40) Sitting down with people I disagree with over a cup of tea(18:59) Anger does not need banishing. It needs hearingWith gratitude toAlice, Kim in the Yukon, Maya, Ken, Linda and Michael, the regulars Laura and Stuart, and new monthly supporters Sue, Jude, Jenna and Mia, and RitaSupport the podcast and join the Weekly Calm: stevenwebb.ukThank you for listening.StevenLinks to Steven Webb's podcast and how you can support his work.Donate paypal.me/stevenwebb or Coffee stevenwebb.ukSteven's courses, podcasts and links: stevenwebb.uk