I'm Not Here To Be Understood: Why Self-Understanding Matters More Than Being Understood by Others

Send us Fan Mail Drawing on 37 years as a nurse, Charlotte explores how exhausting it is to chase being understood and argues that others’ perceptions are filtered through their own history, wounds, and capacity. She reframes the goal as self-understanding; getting curious about patterns, triggers, fears, and the “unpolished” truth, so a misunderstood moment doesn’t destabilise safety or self-worth. Using examples from meetings, texts, disagreements, and on-court mistakes, Charlotte sho...