How to Talk to Your Partner About the Mental Load Without Fighting

If every conversation about housework, childcare, careers, and the mental load seems to end in frustration, resentment, or a full-blown fight, this episode is for you. Leah breaks down why these talks get stuck, how gender norms shape what each partner hears, and why leading with your dreams instead of your overwhelm can change the entire conversation.Drawing from her research and her upcoming book Drained: Reduce Your Mental Load to Do Less and Be More, Leah shares a practical approach for getting clearer on what you want, what support you need, and who is actually best equipped to help you get there. She also explains why both partners may be telling the truth about their fears, even when they feel like they’re speaking completely different languages.This episode offers a powerful shift: instead of asking, “Why aren’t you doing what I’m doing?”, ask, “How do we support each other’s goals as a family?” Leah’s advice is equal parts honest, compassionate, and actionable, with a focus on reducing conflict, sharing the load more fairly, and building a relationship that makes room for both people’s ambitions.Follow Leah: @prof.leahruppanner Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.