Heart Note #7: Visiting the in-laws and what to watch for

Holidays with the in-laws are the narrative of many TV comedies for a reason. We treat the family visit as something to survive and as a chance to assess who we've ended up with. But a family holiday is a mirror, and it gets held up to both of you.This week, I explore what a summer trip to the in-laws really reveals: why your partner regresses at their mother's kitchen table (and why it's loyalty, not weakness), what family researchers call differentiation, and the childhood role that's waiting for each of us, folded by the door like an old cot.The invitation is to watch yourself first, your body, your role, and the moment you choose tenderness over a scorecard.🤎 Heard something that landed? DM me on Instagram @adele_thecoach