Divorce Anxiety: How to Stop Treating Everything Like an Emergency...at 2am

Divorce Keeping You Up at Night? How to Stop the 2 A.M. SpiralDIVORCE CRASH COURSE: Divorce is expensive. Making avoidable mistakes makes it even more expensive. Our Divorce Crash Course gives you the information we wish every person had before and during divorce—from choosing an attorney and understanding your finances to custody, parenting agreements and the mistakes that can cost you thousands.Typically priced at $150, available now for $50, thanks to our angel underwriters, OurFamilyWizard and Soberlink.[GET THE DIVORCE CRASH COURSE HERE]NEW: GUIDED DIVORCE MEDITATIONS: When your brain won't shut up about your divorce, we made something specifically for that. Our Guided Divorce Meditations are short, on-demand meditations for the moments divorce hits hardest—including when you can't sleep, you're worried about money or your kids, you're spiraling about your marriage, or you're struggling with a custody transition.[GET THE GUIDED DIVORCE MEDITATIONS HERE]If divorce is keeping you awake at night, you're definitely not alone.You go to bed exhausted, but the second everything gets quiet, your brain decides it's time to solve your entire divorce.What if my ex is hiding money? What if something happens with the kids? What does that email from my attorney mean? What if this goes to trial? Did I remember to send that document? Should I respond to that text? What if I can't afford this?Suddenly it's 2:34 a.m., you're wide awake, and you're trying to solve problems that probably cannot be solved from your bed.In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and family law attorney Morgan Stogsdill are talking about divorce anxiety, insomnia and what to do when you can't stop thinking about your divorce at night.And we're giving you an actual strategy.Morgan explains how to separate the things that genuinely require action from the things that feel urgent because your anxious brain is filling in the blanks. Andrea shares why losing sleep during divorce can make an already difficult situation worse—and potentially affect the decisions you're making the next day.The goal isn't to pretend everything is fine.It's learning to recognize what needs your action—and what needs your inaction.In This Episode You'll LearnWhy divorce anxiety can feel so much worse at nightWhat to do when you wake up worrying about your divorceThe pen-and-paper strategy Morgan recommends for getting worries out of your headHow to determine whether something actually requires actionWhy you should think twice before emailing your divorce attorney late at nightHow to create a running list of questions for your attorneyWhy you should draft—but NOT send—emotional late-night emailsHow late-night texts and emails from your ex can destroy your sleepWhy setting communication boundaries with your co-parent mattersHow to use OurFamilyWizard notification settings more strategicallyWhy sometimes doing absolutely nothing is the smartest action you can takeWhat to tell yourself when your brain refuses to shut downWhy resting can be enough when you can't force yourself to fall asleepHow changing your environment may help break the cycle when you're lying awake spiralingThe 2 A.M. Divorce Brain DumpIf you wake up in the middle of the night and your brain is racing, Morgan recommends keeping a pen and paper next to your bed.Write down everything that's occupying your brain—not just the divorce stuff.Then go through the list and ask yourself:Can I actually take action on this tonight?Or:Do I have any control over the outcome of this tonight?If the answer is no, cross it out for tonight.If the answer is yes, decide whether it truly requires action immediately or whether you can make a plan to handle it tomorrow.Most things can wait until morning.And if it's something you want to discuss with your divorce attorney, write it down or put the email in your drafts. Do not hit send at 2 a.m.Your rested morning brain may have a very different—and considerably shorter—email to send.Stop Letting Your Ex Into Your BedroomNot literally. We have an entirely different podcast episode for that problem.We're talking about your phone.If your ex tends to send inflammatory texts, emai