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by Morgan Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport
Action steps that save you money. Humor that saves your sanity. Honest that helps you heal. How Not to Suck at Divorce is the divorce podcast for people who want clear answers, smart strategy and support through life before, during and after divorce. Hosted by family-law attorney Morgan L. Stogsdill and comedian and marketing expert Andrea Rappaport, we break down the parts of divorce that can feel impossible to navigate — divorce preparation, high-conflict spouses, narcissistic behavior and manipulation, child custody, co-parenting and parallel parenting, money and property, legal strategy, negotiation, divorce anxiety and life after divorce. You’ll hear practical advice from leading divorce attorneys, therapists, financial professionals and other experts, along with honest conversations about what divorce actually feels like. Our goal is simple: help you avoid expensive mistakes, understand your options and make decisions you’ll still feel good about years from now.
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- 3 days ago29 min
7 Divorce Mistakes That Make Your Case More Expensive
Divorce Crash Course If you want more help understanding the divorce process, avoiding expensive mistakes, and knowing what to expect before you make major decisions, check out the Divorce Crash Course.Guided Divorce Meditations For the moments when you’re about to send the email, respond to your ex, or completely lose your shit, our guided meditations are designed to help you calm your nervous system before you make the situation more expensive.Your divorce lawyer may be expensive — but sometimes the thing making your divorce even more expensive is… you.In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea and Morgan break down the habits that can make a divorce case harder, longer, and more expensive, even when you think you’re being helpful. From trying to run your own legal strategy to rewriting documents with AI, over-emailing your attorney, negotiating with your ex without being prepared, and withholding important information, this episode is basically a loving intervention from your divorce lawyer. Morgan explains why clients sometimes accidentally create more legal work by trying to save money. One major example? Redlining legal documents or using AI to rewrite agreements without understanding whether those changes would actually work in court. That often means your attorney has to undo the work, start over, and spend even more billable time fixing it. Andrea and Morgan also talk about the emotional reason people do this in the first place: divorce is terrifying. When your children, finances, home, and future are involved, it can feel impossible to hand over control to another person. But that fear can push you into micromanaging your lawyer, chasing answers that don’t exist yet, or relying too heavily on AI for legal strategy. You’ll also learn a smarter way to communicate with your attorney, including when to pick up the phone instead of sending a novel-length email, how to comment on a legal document without trying to rewrite it yourself, and the exact kind of question to ask when you’re waiting on opposing counsel and starting to panic. The episode also tackles one of the biggest traps in high-conflict divorce: negotiating directly with your ex when there is a history of control, pressure, or manipulation. Morgan explains when direct negotiation can actually save money — and when it can backfire badly if you go into the conversation without knowing your legal boundaries. And finally: do not hide things from your lawyer.Whether it’s a fight, missing money, an agreement you made directly with your ex, or something you’re embarrassed to admit, your attorney cannot protect you from information they do not have. Morgan explains why withholding key facts can seriously damage your case — and in some situations can even lead an attorney to withdraw from representing you. What You’ll LearnWhy trying to be your own divorce lawyer can cost you more moneyWhen AI can help during divorce — and when it absolutely should notWhy you should not use ChatGPT or Claude as your legal strategistHow to communicate with your divorce attorney without racking up unnecessary feesWhen to call your lawyer instead of sending a long emailHow to review legal documents without rewriting them yourselfWhat to do when opposing counsel is not respondingHow to negotiate with your ex without getting pressured into a bad dealWhy you need to tell your divorce lawyer the whole truthHow fear and anxiety can quietly make your divorce more expensiveA Better Way to Follow Up With Your Divorce LawyerIf you’re waiting for a response from opposing counsel, Andrea and Morgan suggest asking something like:“It’s been X amount of time since we heard from opposing counsel. What is a realistic timeframe for a response, and if we don’t hear back by then, what would our next step be?” That gives you information, a timeline, and a plan — without sending your lawyer four emails in one week asking whether they’ve heard anything yet. Divorce, AI, and Your Legal StrategyAI can be incredibly useful for organizing information, brainstorming questions, calming yourself down, or helping you prepare for a conversation.But AI does not know your judge.It does not know your local court.It does not understand the history of your case the way your attorney does.And it may confidently give you an answer that sounds brilliant and is completely wrong for your situation. Use the robot. Just don’t let the robot
- 5 days ago23 min
High-Conflict Divorce Survival Story: The Biggest Lessons Learned
Going through a high-conflict divorce can make it feel impossible to imagine a life where your phone isn’t constantly lighting up, your nervous system isn’t on high alert, and every day doesn’t bring another crisis. But this episode is proof that there can be an after.Get the Guided Divorce Meditations to help you through these moments when you feel like you are going to lose your sh$t. In this mini episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea shares the real-life story of a man who spent nine years navigating a brutal high-conflict divorce involving emotional abuse, manipulation, gaslighting, court battles, documentation, and children caught in the middle. Today, his kids are thriving, he has rebuilt his life, and he is in a healthy new marriage. More importantly, he shared what actually helped him survive.Andrea breaks down the lessons from his story, including why you have to stop trying to make irrational behavior make sense, how to document your divorce without allowing it to consume your life, and why preparing for conflict is often more useful than desperately trying to prevent it. They’re also powerful reminders for parents. Your children are watching how you move through difficult situations—not whether you “win” every argument. The way you regulate yourself, build a support system, set boundaries, and respond to chaos teaches them how to survive hard things, too. And perhaps the biggest lesson: do not wait until your divorce is over to start rebuilding your life.Create new routines. Make new traditions with your kids. Reconnect with people you love. Find something that belongs only to you. Divorce may be a marathon—but even marathons end. For people dealing with an extremely difficult former spouse, traditional co-parenting may not always be realistic. Andrea also discusses parallel parenting, business-like communication, boundaries, and reducing opportunities for conflict when cooperative co-parenting simply isn’t possible. If you are in the stage of divorce where you genuinely cannot picture your life feeling normal again, this episode is for you.You don't have to believe everything will suddenly become perfect.You just have to believe that this part will not last forever.In This Episode, You’ll LearnHow to stop wasting energy trying to understand a high-conflict exWhy you should document everything without living inside the documentationHow to prepare for a high-conflict “avalanche”What your kids learn from watching you navigate divorceWhy therapy and personal growth can matter more than a courtroom victoryHow to start rebuilding your life before your divorce is officially overWhen parallel parenting may work better than traditional co-parentingHow boundaries and structured communication can reduce divorce conflictWhy examining your own patterns can change what happens after divorceResourcesDivorce Crash Course If you’re overwhelmed by the divorce process and afraid of making expensive mistakes, our Divorce Crash Course was created to help you understand what’s coming and make smarter decisions along the way.https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOurFamilyWizard Andrea also discusses how structured co-parenting communication can help reduce the feeling that you are constantly being bombarded by your ex, particularly in high-conflict situations. We are the only podcast that can save you 20% on Our Family Wizard. www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck20And if this episode helped you, follow How Not to Suck at Divorce so the next episode finds you automatically.
- 1 weeks ago44 min
Divorce: The Petty Fights That Cost You Thousands. What Top Attorneys Want You to Know...
Guided Divorce MeditationsIf you’re stuck in a divorce fight that is making you anxious, angry, or completely unable to think clearly, start here.Our Guided Divorce Meditations are designed for the moments when you need to regulate your nervous system before you respond, negotiate, argue, or make another expensive decision.Divorce Crash CourseGoing through divorce and wondering what you should fight for, what you should let go, and how to avoid making expensive mistakes?Our Divorce Crash Course is a private podcast and guidebook designed to help you understand the divorce process, make smarter decisions, and avoid costly emotional mistakes.Typically priced at $150, it’s available now for $50, thanks to our angel underwriters OurFamilyWizard and Soberlink.Episode Show NotesPeople spend thousands of dollars fighting over some truly ridiculous things in divorce.A wooden spoon. A blender. A sixth-grade yearbook. Beanie Babies. Airline miles. Even a tanning bed.And as funny as those stories sound, there is a very real reason they matter.Because most of the time, the thing you are fighting over is not actually the thing you are fighting over.In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and family law attorney Morgan Stogsdill are joined by attorneys Sarah Jacobs and Jamie Berger of Jacobs Berger for a conversation about the emotional and financial cost of digging in during divorce. One client spent hours in court fighting over a wooden spoon named Willy Woo. Another divorce came down to a battle over a blender. And one case required attorneys to spend days sorting through tubs of Beanie Babies because neither side could let them go. The stories are absurd.The behavior behind them is not.Divorce Can Turn Small Things Into Expensive BattlesWhen you are going through divorce, emotion can completely distort value.An object may be worth $100, but suddenly it represents your marriage, your history, your independence, your power, or your need to finally “win.”That is where people start spending far more in attorney fees than the thing they are fighting over is actually worth.In the episode, Andrea points out that the fight over one wooden spoon likely cost thousands of dollars in legal fees alone. And that is exactly why divorce strategy matters.Before you dig in, you have to ask yourself:What is this actually worth?Not emotionally.Financially.The Real Problem May Be ControlSometimes the fight is not about property at all.Morgan explains that many of these so-called “squirrel issues” ultimately come down to control. When someone feels like they have lost control of their life, their finances, their family, or the divorce process itself, they may try to regain that feeling of control by pushing the other person’s buttons. Sarah adds that fear can drive the same behavior: fear of change, fear of being alone, fear of losing the life you knew, and fear of what comes next. That means the blender may not be about the blender.The yearbook may not be about the yearbook.And the airline miles may not be about the airline miles.Sometimes the fight itself has become a way to stay connected to the relationship, hold onto control, or avoid confronting the much bigger reality that the marriage is ending.Principle Has a Price TagOne of the strongest lines in this episode comes from Jamie:Principle has a price tag.If you are fighting over something purely because you believe you are right, you need to understand what that p
- 1 weeks ago15 min
Divorce & Narcissistic Manipulation: How to Stop Taking the Bait
Need Help Calming Your Nervous System?Try our Guided Divorce Meditations, created specifically for the moments when divorce anxiety, anger and overwhelm are taking over.Use them before responding to a triggering text, before a difficult conversation, before court, before mediation—or anytime you need help getting out of your head and back into control.Divorce Crash CourseGoing through divorce and have no idea what you’re supposed to be doing next? Start with our Divorce Crash Course—a private podcast and guidebook designed to help you understand the divorce process, avoid expensive mistakes, and feel a whole lot less lost.Typically priced at $150, it’s available now for just $50, thanks to our angel underwriters OurFamilyWizard and Soberlink.High-conflict people—and especially manipulative, narcissistic exes—can have an incredible ability to get inside your head. One text, one email, one strange interaction at school pickup can completely derail your nervous system if you let it.And during divorce, that matters.Because when you are already emotionally exhausted, stressed, angry and running on fumes, that is exactly when you are most likely to make a bad decision. You fire off the text. You respond to the email. You call your attorney while completely dysregulated. You snap at your kids. You take the bait.In this mini episode, Andrea talks about what happens when a high-conflict ex triggers you and why your first job is not to win, explain, defend or react. Your first job is to recognize that you are triggered and give yourself a grown-up timeout.And that is where STFU comes in.No, not that STFU.This one stands for:S — StopRecognize what is happening before you react.T — Take SpaceGet out of the immediate situation long enough to regulate yourself.F — Find Your GoalAsk yourself what you actually want to accomplish in that moment.U — Utilize a ResourceCall a friend. Talk to your therapist. Go for a walk. Fold laundry. Clean the kitchen. Listen to music. Or use one of our Guided Divorce Meditations to help calm your nervous system and move through the anxiety, anger and overwhelm before you do something you regret.Andrea also talks about splitting, a manipulation tactic often seen in high-conflict dynamics. Splitting can push you away from the very people who are trying to support you—your friends, family, therapist, attorney or partner. And when you are already worn down by divorce, it becomes even easier to start taking your stress out on those people.That is exactly why emotional regulation matters so much during a high-conflict divorce.The goal is not to never get triggered. You will.The goal is to catch yourself before that trigger starts making decisions for you.And if you are in one of those moments where your brain is spinning, your heart is racing and you feel like you are about to absolutely lose it, this is also exactly what our Guided Divorce Meditations were created for. They are short, practical tools you can use when divorce anxiety, anger or panic is taking over and you need help getting yourself back to baseline.Because sometimes the best thing you can do for your case, your kids and your own sanity is simple:Stop. Take space. Find your goal. Utilize a resource.Divorce is a marathon. Protect your energy. Protect your judgment. Protect the relationships that matter to you.And when a high-conflict ex tries to pull you into the chaos?Do not take the bait.In This EpisodeAndrea talks about dealing with a high-conflict or narcissistic ex, recognizing emotional manipulation during divorce, avoiding reactive communication, managing divorce triggers, understanding splitting, using the STFU method t
- 2 weeks ago27 min
Divorce and Emotional Endurance: 3 Special Tips to Survive a High-Conflict Divorce
Divorce and Emotional Endurance: 3 Ways to Survive a High-Conflict DivorceGuided Divorce Meditations for When You’re About to Lose Your Sh$tFor the moments when you can’t sleep, when you miss your kids, when you’re worried about money, or just need to get through the next ten minutes.👉 GET THE GUIDED DIVORCE MEDITATIONS HEREGoing through a divorce? Start with the Divorce Crash Course.We created the Divorce Crash Course to help you understand the divorce process, communicate smarter with your attorney, avoid expensive mistakes, and make better decisions when your brain is completely overwhelmed.Typically priced at $150, available now for $50, thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and Soberlink.👉 GET THE DIVORCE CRASH COURSE HEREIf you're going through a high-conflict divorce, you already know that the exhaustion isn't just coming from court dates and legal bills.It's the texts.The emails.The accusations.The schedule changes.The constant wondering what your ex is going to do next.And eventually, your nervous system starts living like there's an emergency around every corner.In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and family law attorney Morgan Stogsdill talk about something that doesn't get nearly enough attention during divorce: emotional endurance.Because when you're dealing with a difficult, unpredictable, or high-conflict spouse, you cannot control everything they throw at you.But you can get better at protecting your energy, responding strategically, and recovering when something knocks you sideways.We're breaking down three practical ways to emotionally survive a high-conflict divorce without letting it take over your entire life.1. Build a Tiny Divorce Decision-Making TeamOne of the biggest mistakes people make during divorce?Making everybody in their life part of their divorce.Your friends.Your sister.Your neighbor.The moms at school.The guy at the dry cleaner.When you're scared and overwhelmed, it is completely natural to want to tell everyone what is happening. You're looking for reassurance, advice, validation—or sometimes you just need the insanity to come out of your mouth.But every new person you involve comes with another opinion.And more opinions can mean more anxiety, more confusion, and more second-guessing.Instead, build a very small divorce team.That might include:Your divorce attorney for legal strategyA therapist for emotional processingOne trusted friend who can listen when you need to lose your mind for five minutesOther professionals your attorney recommends based on your caseEverybody else?They can still be part of your life.They just don't need to be part of your divorce strategy.And sometimes the healthiest thing you can say when a friend asks about your divorce is:"It's a complete shit show. Anyway, where did you get that purse?"Your brain desperately needs conversations that have absolutely nothing to do with divorce.2. Stop Expecting Fairness From a High-Conflict ExThis one is HARD.When somebody behaves irrationally, unfairly, or cruelly during divorce, your brain keeps waiting for the moment when they finally become reasonable.You think:Surely they'll realize this is hurting the kids.Surely they'll see how ridiculous this is.Surely we can agree on this one thing.Maybe.But if you're divorcing a genuinely high-conflict person, waiting for fairness can drain every ounce of emotional endurance you have.As Morgan explains in this episode, "fair" is not necessarily the legal standard—and your definition of fair probably isn't your spouse's definition of fair anyway.So stop making fairness the goal.Instead, focus on:Strategy.What does your attorney recommend?Enforceability.Can the agreement actually be enforced?Closure.What gets this di
- 2 weeks ago14 min
Divorce Stories That Will Make You Feel Better About Your Own Divorce
🧘 DIVORCE MEDITATIONS Divorce can make your nervous system feel like it’s running a marathon with no finish line. Our Divorce Meditations are here when you need to calm your brain, stop the spiral, and give yourself a few minutes to breathe.👉 Listen to the Divorce Meditations here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/guides/p/divorce-guided-meditations💥 THE DIVORCE CRASH COURSE If you’re going through divorce and terrified of making an expensive mistake, start here.The Divorce Crash Course gives you the information we wish every person had before making major decisions in divorce — including how to save money on attorneys, understand your finances, navigate custody and parenting agreements, and avoid mistakes that can cost you thousands.Typically priced at 150, available now for $50, thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and Soberlink.👉 Get the Divorce Crash Course here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseThink you’re sucking at divorce?Good news: there are people who have sucked at it significantly harder.In this mini episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea brings you some of the strangest, funniest and most unbelievable divorce stories we’ve ever heard — involving a donated kidney, ex-in-laws buried in a backyard, a six-pound catfish named Pinky, and one extremely smart ex-wife who made sure a future Nobel Prize was covered in her divorce settlement.Yes. All of that happens in one episode.But underneath the ridiculous divorce stories is something we actually want you to remember:Divorce is a marathon, not a sprint.You cannot spend every hour of every day thinking about your divorce, answering emails, talking to your attorney, worrying about your kids, analyzing your ex, making decisions and trying to predict what happens next.Your brain needs a break.Sometimes that means taking a walk. Sometimes it means binge-watching something completely stupid. And sometimes it means listening to stories about someone arguing over a giant catfish during their divorce so you can remember that maybe — just maybe — you're doing better than you think.In this episode:One man who reportedly wanted compensation for a kidney he donated to his wifeThe divorce dispute involving urns and headstones in the backyardThe tragic tale of Pinky, the six-pound divorce catfishThe incredibly savvy divorce settlement that gave an ex-wife half of a future Nobel PrizeWhy you don't have to make every divorce decision immediatelyWhy taking mental breaks during divorce is not selfishHow to pace yourself during a long or high-conflict divorceWhy laughter can actually be part of getting through thisAnd why your goal isn't to get through divorce the fastest — it's to get through it as healthy and whole as possibleYOUR REMINDER TODAY:You are allowed to take a day off from divorce.You are allowed to laugh.You are allowed to watch garbage television.You are allowed to stop thinking about your ex for five freaking minutes.And you do not need to win an award for being the fastest person ever to get divorced.When you think you cannot do this, remember:You already are doing it.Your win is getting to the other side — and giving yourself the opportunity to build the healthiest, happiest next chapter of your life.We are so freaking proud of you.You've got this. And we've got you.⭐ FOLLOW HOW NOT TO SUCK AT DIVORCEIf this episode gave you a laugh when you desperately needed one, please follow the show and leave us a rating and review!www.ratethispodcast.com/notsuckAnd go back through the How Not to Suck at Divorce library — we have episodes covering divorce finances, custody, co-parenting, attorneys, mediation, high-conflict divorce, emotional recovery and pretty much every WTF moment that can happen along the way.SEO KEYWORDSdivorce stories, funny divorce stories, divorce humor, getting through divorce, divorce emotional support, divorce burnout, surviving divorce, high conflict divorce, divorce stress, divorce self care, weird divorce cases, crazy divorce stories, divorce settlement, divorce finances, divorce advice for women, divorce advice, coping with divorce, life after divorce, divorce podcast, How Not to Suck at Divorce
- 3 weeks ago37 min
Divorce and Hidden Money: What to do if You Suspect Hidden Crypto?
Divorce and Hidden Cryptocurrency: How to Find Crypto Your Spouse May Be Hiding🧘 DIVORCE MEDITATIONSDivorce can make your brain feel like it’s running 24/7. Our Divorce Meditations were created to help calm your nervous system, quiet the spiral, and get you through the moments when everything feels like too much.Listen to the Divorce Meditations here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/guides/p/divorce-guided-meditations💥 THE DIVORCE CRASH COURSEIf you’re overwhelmed by divorce and terrified of making an expensive mistake, start here.The Divorce Crash Course gives you the information we wish every person had BEFORE making major decisions in divorce — including how to save money on attorneys, understand your finances, navigate custody and parenting agreements, and avoid the mistakes that can cost you thousands.Typically priced at $150, available now for $50, thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and Soberlink.👉 Get the Divorce Crash Course here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseWhat happens if you think your spouse is hiding money in cryptocurrency during your divorce?First: don’t panic. And definitely don’t assume crypto is impossible to find.In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and family law attorney Morgan Stogsdill are joined by Jason Wright, Managing Director in the Disputes, Compliance & Investigations group at Stout, to break cryptocurrency down for the rest of us — and explain exactly what can happen when crypto becomes part of a divorce.We’re starting with the basics: What the hell is cryptocurrency? What’s a crypto wallet? What’s a private key or seed phrase? What are Coinbase, Kraken and other crypto exchanges actually doing?Then we get into the question that matters during divorce:Can your spouse actually hide marital money in crypto — and can you find it?Jason explains why cryptocurrency isn’t necessarily as anonymous or untraceable as people think, how forensic experts can follow transactions on the blockchain, and what financial clues might indicate that money has been moved into cryptocurrency.We discuss:• How cryptocurrency differs from traditional bank and investment accounts• Crypto exchanges like Coinbase, Kraken and Gemini• The difference between custodial and non-custodial crypto wallets• What private keys and seed phrases actually mean• Crypto ATMs — yes, apparently those exist• Transfers and cash withdrawals that could signal cryptocurrency activity• How forensic experts trace crypto transactions• Why the blockchain can actually help investigators follow money• When your divorce attorney may need to subpoena an exchange• How to decide whether pursuing suspected crypto is financially worth it• Cryptocurrency and dissipation of marital assets• What happens when someone loses the password to a crypto wallet• Why hidden crypto may still be discoverable after divorce• Why you should NOT confront your spouse if you suspect they’re hiding cryptocurrencyOne of the biggest takeaways from this episode?You do not need to become a cryptocurrency expert.If something doesn’t look right, gather the financial information you have lawful access to, document what you’re seeing, and bring it to your divorce attorney. Let your attorney decide whether additional investigation, subpoenas or a forensic expert are necessary.And if your lawyer doesn’t have much experience dealing with cryptocurrency in divorce? Ask them. You have every right to know whether the team handling your divorce understands the assets that may be involved.Because going on
- Aug 14, 202626 min
Divorce Anxiety: How to Stop Treating Everything Like an Emergency...at 2am
Divorce Keeping You Up at Night? How to Stop the 2 A.M. SpiralDIVORCE CRASH COURSE: Divorce is expensive. Making avoidable mistakes makes it even more expensive. Our Divorce Crash Course gives you the information we wish every person had before and during divorce—from choosing an attorney and understanding your finances to custody, parenting agreements and the mistakes that can cost you thousands.Typically priced at $150, available now for $50, thanks to our angel underwriters, OurFamilyWizard and Soberlink.[GET THE DIVORCE CRASH COURSE HERE]NEW: GUIDED DIVORCE MEDITATIONS: When your brain won't shut up about your divorce, we made something specifically for that. Our Guided Divorce Meditations are short, on-demand meditations for the moments divorce hits hardest—including when you can't sleep, you're worried about money or your kids, you're spiraling about your marriage, or you're struggling with a custody transition.[GET THE GUIDED DIVORCE MEDITATIONS HERE]If divorce is keeping you awake at night, you're definitely not alone.You go to bed exhausted, but the second everything gets quiet, your brain decides it's time to solve your entire divorce.What if my ex is hiding money? What if something happens with the kids? What does that email from my attorney mean? What if this goes to trial? Did I remember to send that document? Should I respond to that text? What if I can't afford this?Suddenly it's 2:34 a.m., you're wide awake, and you're trying to solve problems that probably cannot be solved from your bed.In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and family law attorney Morgan Stogsdill are talking about divorce anxiety, insomnia and what to do when you can't stop thinking about your divorce at night.And we're giving you an actual strategy.Morgan explains how to separate the things that genuinely require action from the things that feel urgent because your anxious brain is filling in the blanks. Andrea shares why losing sleep during divorce can make an already difficult situation worse—and potentially affect the decisions you're making the next day.The goal isn't to pretend everything is fine.It's learning to recognize what needs your action—and what needs your inaction.In This Episode You'll LearnWhy divorce anxiety can feel so much worse at nightWhat to do when you wake up worrying about your divorceThe pen-and-paper strategy Morgan recommends for getting worries out of your headHow to determine whether something actually requires actionWhy you should think twice before emailing your divorce attorney late at nightHow to create a running list of questions for your attorneyWhy you should draft—but NOT send—emotional late-night emailsHow late-night texts and emails from your ex can destroy your sleepWhy setting communication boundaries with your co-parent mattersHow to use OurFamilyWizard notification settings more strategicallyWhy sometimes doing absolutely nothing is the smartest action you can takeWhat to tell yourself when your brain refuses to shut downWhy resting can be enough when you can't force yourself to fall asleepHow changing your environment may help break the cycle when you're lying awake spiralingThe 2 A.M. Divorce Brain DumpIf you wake up in the middle of the night and your brain is racing, Morgan recommends keeping a pen and paper next to your bed.Write down everything that's occupying your brain—not just the divorce stuff.Then go through the list and ask yourself:Can I actually take action on this tonight?Or:Do I have any control over the outcome of this tonight?If the answer is no, cross it out for tonight.If the answer is yes, decide whether it truly requires action immediately or whether you can make a plan to handle it tomorrow.Most things can wait until morning.And if it's something you want to discuss with your divorce attorney, write it down or put the email in your drafts. Do not hit send at 2 a.m.Your rested morning brain may have a very different—and considerably shorter—email to send.Stop Letting Your Ex Into Your BedroomNot literally. We have an entirely different podcast episode for that problem.We're talking about your phone.If your ex tends to send inflammatory texts, emai
About How Not To Suck At Divorce
Action steps that save you money. Humor that saves your sanity. Honest that helps you heal. How Not to Suck at Divorce is the divorce podcast for people who want clear answers, smart strategy and support through life before, during and after divorce. Hosted by family-law attorney Morgan L. Stogsdill and comedian and marketing expert Andrea Rappaport, we break down the parts of divorce that can feel impossible to navigate — divorce preparation, high-conflict spouses, narcissistic behavior and manipulation, child custody, co-parenting and parallel parenting, money and property, legal strategy, negotiation, divorce anxiety and life after divorce. You’ll hear practical advice from leading divorce attorneys, therapists, financial professionals and other experts, along with honest conversations about what divorce actually feels like. Our goal is simple: help you avoid expensive mistakes, understand your options and make decisions you’ll still feel good about years from now.
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