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by Morgan Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport
How Not to Suck at Divorce Action Steps That Save You Money. Humor That Saves Your Sanity. Honesty That Helps You Heal. Most people make expensive divorce mistakes before they even understand the process. Before you spend thousands learning those lessons the hard way, check out our Divorce Crash Course—a $150 program available for just $50. It walks you through exactly what to do before, during, and after divorce so you can protect your finances, avoid costly mistakes, and make smarter decisions from day one. Divorce is one of the hardest things you'll ever go through—but getting through it doesn't have to cost you your financial future, your peace of mind, or your sense of humor. Hosted by comedian-turned-marketing expert Andrea Rappaport and powerhouse family law attorney Morgan L. Stogsdill, How Not to Suck at Divorce helps you navigate life before, during, and after divorce with relatable conversations, practical legal insights, and honest discussions about the emotional side of starting over. Every episode is designed to help you avoid expensive mistakes, better understand the legal process, communicate more effectively, and make decisions you'll still feel good about years from now. Whether you're wondering if divorce is the right decision, in the middle of litigation, struggling with co-parenting, or rebuilding your life afterward, we're here to help you feel less alone—and a whole lot more prepared. Because divorce isn't just a legal process. It's an emotional one. And sometimes the best thing you can do is laugh, take one small step forward, and remember that you don't have to figure it all out by yourself. BEFORE DIVORCE Thinking about divorce? We'll help you prepare before you make one of the biggest decisions of your life. Learn how to protect yourself financially, emotionally, and legally before you ever file. DURING DIVORCE From custody and parenting plans to communication, negotiation, finances, and high-conflict personalities, we'll help you make smarter decisions while avoiding the mistakes that cost people the most. AFTER DIVORCE Because divorce isn't the end of your story. We'll help you rebuild your confidence, your finances, your relationships, and your life. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN How to avoid costly divorce mistakes How to reduce unnecessary legal fees Divorce preparation before hiring an attorney Custody and parenting plan strategies Co-parenting and parallel parenting Communication techniques that protect your case Financial planning during divorce Property division and asset protection Negotiation strategies Emotional healing after divorce Recovering from high-conflict relationships Rebuilding your life after divorce You'll also hear conversations with leading experts in family law, psychology, finance, digital safety, parenting, and trauma recovery, alongside honest discussions about what divorce actually feels like—and how to get through it without losing yourself in the process. At its core, How Not to Suck at Divorce is about helping you make better decisions during one of the biggest transitions of your life. Not by overwhelming you. Not by talking over your head. But by giving you action steps that save you money, humor that saves your sanity, and honesty that helps you heal. You've got this. And we've got you.
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- 2 days ago30 min
Divorce: When Being Too Nice Can Cost You Everything
🎧 Divorce Crash Course (DCC)Thinking about divorce or already in it? Before you make a decision that could cost you thousands, get the information you wish someone had given you from the very beginning.Get the Divorce Crash Course (DCC) today.Typically priced at $150, available now for just $50, thanks to our angel underwriters Our Family Wizard and Soberlink.Whether you're considering divorce, in the middle of one, or trying to rebuild afterward, this course can save you time, money, and unnecessary heartbreak.Episode DescriptionWe've all heard the advice: "Be the bigger person."But what happens when being the bigger person turns into giving away your financial security, parenting time, or legal leverage?In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea and family law attorney Morgan Stogsdill tackle one of the most common—and costly—mistakes people make during divorce: confusing kindness with surrender.They explain why people-pleasers often struggle during negotiations, how manipulative exes exploit "nice" personalities, and why your long-term future matters far more than making today's conflict disappear.Morgan and Andrea also share their powerful THINK framework—a practical decision-making tool to help you slow down before agreeing to anything you'll regret.If you've ever worried about coming across as "mean" during your divorce, this conversation could save you years of regret.In This Episode You'll LearnWhy kindness and weakness are not the same thingThe hidden cost of being a people pleaser during divorceHow manipulative spouses use guilt to get what they wantWhy short-term peace often creates long-term problemsWhen your attorney should be the one saying "no"How to protect yourself without becoming combativeMorgan's THINK framework for making smarter divorce decisionsWhy leverage matters in divorce negotiationsHow OurFamilyWizard can reduce manipulation and conflictWhy thinking long-term is one of the most important divorce skills you'll ever developHow Not to Suck at Divorce's THINK FrameworkBefore responding to your spouse, pause and THINK:T – Think long-term, not just about today's pain.H – Have a purpose. Know why you're making every decision.I – It's okay to say no.N – Nice isn't the same as fair.K – Keep your leverage.Key TakeawaysDivorce is a marathon—not a sprint.Being calm leads to better long-term decisions.Your attorney exists to protect your future, not just settle today's argument.Don't give something away simply because conflict feels uncomfortable.You can be compassionate while maintaining healthy boundaries.Protecting yourself isn't selfish—it's smart.Resources MentionedDivorce Crash Course (DCC)OurFamilyWizardSoberlinkHow Not to Suck at Divorce Private CommunityRemember friends, we are the only podcast that can offer you 20% off your first year of Our Family Wizard! Head here: www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck20Subscribe & ReviewIf this episode helped you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Every review helps us reach more people navigating one of life's hardest transitions.www.ratethispodcast.com/notsuckSEO Keywordsdivorce advice, divorce negotiation tips, people pleaser divorce, divorce boundaries, divorce strategy, family law, mediation tips, divorce attorney advice, divorce leverage, co-parenting, OurFamilyWizard, divorce settlement, emotional abuse, manipulative spouse, divorce podcast, parenting plan, divorce mistakes, custody negotiations, divorce support, how not to suck at divorceMentioned in this episode:Click Subscribe If this show has helped you, please click subscribe. The follows
- 4 days ago15 min
Divorce: The Most Expensive Word You Can Say to Your Lawyer Is "Okay".
🚨 Before You Spend Thousands More on Your Divorce...If you're navigating divorce and want to avoid the costly mistakes so many people make, grab our Divorce Crash Course today.Typically priced at $150, available now for just $50, thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and Soberlink.Inside you'll learn:How to avoid expensive legal mistakesWhat to expect throughout the divorce processHow to communicate more effectively with your attorneyThe biggest financial pitfalls people don't see comingPractical strategies to save money, reduce stress, and make smarter decisions👉 Get instant access today: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseDivorce: Don't Leave Your Lawyer's Office Confused (It Could Cost You Thousands)Have you ever walked out of your attorney's office, gotten into your car, and suddenly realized..."I don't actually know what we just decided."You're not alone.In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea and family law attorney Morgan Stogsdill tackle one of the most common—and expensive—mistakes people make during divorce: pretending to understand or agree with a legal strategy when they really don't.Too many people stay quiet because they're embarrassed to ask questions, don't want to challenge their attorney, or need more time to process what they just heard. Unfortunately, that silence can lead to unnecessary legal fees, poor strategic decisions, and frustration for both you and your lawyer.Andrea and Morgan explain why speaking up isn't being difficult—it's being a smart client.In This Episode, We Discuss:Why so many people leave attorney meetings feeling confusedThe hidden cost of pretending you understand your legal strategyHow to tell your attorney a proposed strategy doesn't feel rightWhy asking, "What do you think the other side will do next?" is one of the smartest questions you can askWhen it's okay to ask for time before making a major legal decisionWhy changing your mind after your attorney has already started working can become expensiveThe importance of making sure your attorney's strategy aligns with your personal goalsHow to ask your lawyer for a recap email after a meetingWhy a recurring weekly check-in can actually reduce stress and unnecessary communicationMemorable Quotes"You're the driver of the bus. Your lawyer is there to guide you—but the decisions are ultimately yours.""Don't nod your head just because you're afraid to look like you don't understand.""Silence can be one of the most expensive mistakes you make during divorce."Resources MentionedDivorce Crash Course: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseJoin our private divorce community for support and resources.Subscribe to How Not to Suck at Divorce so you never miss an episode.If You Enjoyed This Episode...Please leave us a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ review and share this episode with someone navigating divorce. It helps more people find practical, trustworthy guidance during one of the hardest seasons of their lives.www.ratethispodcast.com/notsuckConnect With Us🌐 Website: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com📱 Follow us on social media for daily divorce tips, legal education, and emotional support.@hownottosuckatdivorce@divorcepodcastSEO Keywordsdivorce attorney communicationquestions to ask your divorce lawyerdivorce legal strategyhow to work with your divorce attorneydivorce mistakesdivorce legal advicefamily law attorney tipsdivorce mediation vs litigationsaving money during divorcehow not to suck at divorceMentioned in this episode:Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jewele
- 1 weeks ago20 min
My Divorce Secret: The Shame I Carried About My Marriage (And Why Pretending Made Everything Worse)
🎧 Divorce Crash CourseBefore you hire an attorney—or if you're already in the middle of your divorce—don't miss our Divorce Crash Course.Learn how to avoid the costly mistakes that can impact your finances, custody, and future. Typically priced at $150, it's available now for just $50, thanks to our angel underwriters: Our Family Wizard and Soberlink.👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseEpisode DescriptionWhen people think about divorce, they often assume the shame comes after the marriage ends.For Andrea, it began years earlier.In this deeply personal solo episode, Andrea opens up about the emotional weight of pretending everything was okay while privately living in a lonely, disconnected marriage. She shares the shame of hiding a sexless marriage, constantly editing her reality to protect appearances, and questioning her own worth because of what was happening behind closed doors.She also explores the quieter forms of emotional control that can slowly erode your confidence, why shame thrives in silence, and how years of living in survival mode affected both her mind and body.If you've ever smiled through the pain, convinced everyone your marriage was fine, or wondered if something was wrong with you because your relationship felt so different from everyone else's, this episode is for you.You are not alone.In This Episode You'll Learn:Why shame often begins long before divorceThe emotional toll of pretending your marriage is okayHow loneliness can become internalized as self-worthThe hidden impact of emotional control and chronic stressWhy many people question their own reality in unhealthy relationshipsThe connection between living in survival mode and your mental healthHow shame keeps us silent—and why speaking the truth is the first step toward healingWhy your circumstances do not define your worthResources MentionedDivorce Crash CourseOur Family WizardSoberlinkHow Not to Suck at Divorce CommunityConnect With Us🌐 Website: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com💬 Join our private community for support, resources, and conversations with people who truly understand what you're going through.📧 Questions or episode ideas? Email us at hello@hownottosuckatdivorce.comIf This Episode Helped You...Please take a moment to follow the show, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear it.You never know who is quietly pretending everything is okay.SEO Keywordsdivorce shame, shame after divorce, emotional abuse, emotionally abusive marriage, controlling marriage, surviving emotional abuse, loneliness in marriage, sexless marriage, divorce healing, panic disorder after divorce, trauma and divorce, unhealthy marriage, emotionally controlling relationship, divorce podcast, high-conflict marriage, mental health after divorce, how not to suck at divorce, healing from divorce, relationship shame, surviving divorceMentioned in this episode:Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive auction environment where buyers bid against each other for your piece — meaning they are motivated to help you get the highest price possible. It’s completely risk-free and honestly something I wish I had known about sooner. Get started today by heading to worthy.com/divorcepod and lock in an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for more than $1,500.
- 1 weeks ago14 min
Divorce: Why Smart, Successful People Stay in Toxic Marriages
🎧 Before You Continue… Don't Navigate Divorce AloneThe Divorce Crash CourseIf you're thinking about divorce, in the middle of one, or trying to rebuild your life afterward, our Divorce Crash Course can help you avoid the mistakes that cost people thousands of dollars—and months (or years) of unnecessary stress.Typically priced at $150, it's available now for just $50, thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and Soberlink.Inside you'll learn:How to prepare before filing for divorceThe biggest legal and financial mistakes to avoidHow to save money on attorney's feesParenting and custody considerationsWhat to expect throughout the divorce process👉 Get instant access today: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseEpisode Description"I'm smart...so how did I end up in such a toxic marriage?"If you've ever looked back on your relationship and asked yourself that question, this episode is for you.One of the most painful parts of divorce isn't just grieving the relationship—it's trying to understand why you stayed.Andrea explores why intelligent, educated, capable, and successful people often remain in unhealthy marriages far longer than they expected. This isn't about weakness or a lack of intelligence. It's about hope, psychology, love, and the very human tendency to believe that if we just try a little harder, things will eventually get better.In this deeply personal mini episode, Andrea discusses:Why toxic relationships usually develop graduallyThe psychology of normalization and why unhealthy behavior becomes easier to accept over timeWhy successful people often stay because they're natural problem-solversThe role hope plays in keeping us stuckWhy leaving a marriage is rarely "just one decision"How shame can become one of the biggest obstacles to healingWhy replacing self-blame with understanding is one of the most important steps in recoveryIf you've ever wondered, "What was I thinking?" this episode offers a different perspective—one rooted in compassion instead of shame.Because healing doesn't begin with blaming yourself.It begins with understanding yourself.In This EpisodeWhy smart people stay in toxic marriagesThe psychology behind unhealthy relationshipsHow normalization changes what we acceptWhy hope can sometimes keep us stuckWhy problem-solvers often struggle to leaveThe hidden cost of shame after divorceReplacing self-blame with self-understandingThe first steps toward emotional healingResources MentionedDivorce Crash CourseLearn how to protect yourself legally, financially, and emotionally before, during, and after divorce.👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseJoin Our Free CommunityConnect with thousands of people navigating divorce who truly understand what you're going through.👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.comQuestions or Episode Ideas?We'd love to hear from you.📧 hello@hownottosuckatdivorce.comIf This Episode Helped...Please consider following How Not to Suck at Divorce on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen.Your follows, ratings, and reviews help more people find support during one of the hardest seasons of their lives.SEO KeywordsWhy smart people stay in toxic marriagesToxic marriageEmotional abuseDivorce podcastDivorce recoveryHigh-conflict marriageUnhealthy relationshipsWhy people stay in bad relationshipsDivorce healingShame after divorceDivorce emotional recoveryRelationship psychologyHow to leave a toxic marriageHealing after divorceHow Not to Suck at DivorceMentioned in this episode:Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compa
- 2 weeks ago38 min
Divorce Regrets: Celebrity Divorce Mistakes You Need to Learn From
Divorce Crash CourseThinking about divorce or already in the middle of one? Don't make expensive mistakes before you understand your rights.Our Divorce Crash Course gives you practical guidance on attorneys, finances, custody, parenting agreements, and the biggest mistakes people make during divorce.Typically priced at $150, available now for just $50 thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and Soberlink.👉 https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course🎙️ Episode DescriptionWhat can Brad Pitt, Angelina Jolie, Johnny Depp, Amber Heard, Kevin Costner, Kim Kardashian, Britney Spears, Jeff Bezos, and Alec Baldwin teach us about divorce?A lot more than you might think.In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and top family law attorney Morgan L. Stogsdill break down some of Hollywood's most famous divorces—not for the celebrity gossip, but for the real-life legal and emotional lessons that apply to everyday people.From prenups and child support to co-parenting, high-conflict custody battles, social media mistakes, and negotiating outside of court, these celebrity cases reveal common divorce pitfalls that can cost people time, money, and peace of mind.Whether you're considering divorce, currently navigating one, or helping someone through the process, this episode is packed with practical advice you can actually use.⭐ In This EpisodeWhy Kevin Costner's divorce proves prenups aren't magicWhat Johnny Depp and Amber Heard teach about text messages and digital evidenceThe expensive lesson behind Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie's years-long legal battleKim Kardashian and Kanye West's co-parenting challengesAlec Baldwin's custody mistakes and what every parent should learnBritney Spears, Kevin Federline, and when child support can actually be modifiedJeff Bezos' divorce strategy and why settling outside of court often saves everyoneHow to identify your true "must-haves" during divorce negotiationsWhy protecting your integrity is often your greatest victory🔑 Key Takeaways✔️ Not every battle is worth fighting.✔️ Every text, email, voicemail, and social media post could become evidence.✔️ Prenups reduce uncertainty—but they don't eliminate conflict.✔️ Child support modifications require a significant change in circumstances.✔️ The best divorce outcomes often happen through thoughtful negotiation—not courtroom battles.✔️ Focus on your true priorities instead of trying to "win" every issue.🎧 More Divorce Resources🌐 Website:https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com🎙️ Listen to more episodes:https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/podcastOur Family Wizard: You guys, please check them out. They are the most court respected coparenting app. And we are the only podcast that can offer you 20% off your first year of the essential's package.www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck About How Not to Suck at DivorceHosted by Andrea Rappaport and Morgan L. Stogsdill, Head of the Family Law Group at Beermann LLP, How Not to Suck at Divorce provides practical legal, financial, and emotional guidance for people navigating divorce.Our mission is simple: help you make smarter decisions, avoid costly mistakes, and build a better life on the other side of divorce.Because divorce is a marathon—not a sprint.You've got this.And we've got you.📚 Resources MentionedPrenuptial AgreementsChild Support ModificationsCustody & Parenting TimeMediation vs. LitigationHigh-Net-Worth DivorceDigital Evidence in Divorce Cases📱 Connect With UsInstagram: @HowNotToSuckAtDivorceFacebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1EQe3x7zCR/Website: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.comHashtags#Divorce #Ce
- 2 weeks ago14 min
Divorce: What to Do When the Outcome Doesn't Feel Fair
Divorce Isn't Fair: How to Stop the Negative Spiral and Move Forward🎧 Divorce Crash Course – Just $50 (Limited Time)Before you spend thousands on avoidable divorce mistakes, invest in yourself.Our Divorce Crash Course walks you through the biggest legal, financial, and emotional mistakes people make before, during, and after divorce. Typically priced at $150, it's available now for just $50, thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and SoberLink.Learn more here!Episode SummaryOne of the hardest truths about divorce is also one of the most important:It's not fair.Whether it's a custody decision, financial settlement, or something you genuinely believed you deserved, getting stuck on what isn't fair can keep you emotionally trapped long after your divorce moves forward.In this mini episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and family law attorney Morgan L. Stogsdill explain why obsessing over fairness often leads to costly legal decisions, emotional exhaustion, and unnecessary conflict. They also share a practical mindset shift that can help you regain momentum and make smarter choices throughout your divorce.If you're struggling to let go of something that feels unfair, this episode offers both legal perspective and emotional guidance to help you move forward.In This EpisodeWhy divorce often feels deeply unfair—and why that's normalHow focusing on fairness can keep you emotionally stuckThe hidden financial cost of fighting every issueWhy friends and family can unintentionally make the situation worseHow to know whether an issue is worth continuing to fightThe powerful question every client should ask their divorce attorneyHow acceptance can help you heal without approving of what happenedWhy letting go isn't giving up—it's moving forwardKey TakeawayYou don't have to like what happened.You don't even have to think it's fair.But staying trapped in resentment won't change the outcome—it only keeps you from building what's next. Sometimes the healthiest decision is accepting what you cannot change so you can focus your energy on creating a better future.Resources MentionedDivorce Crash CourseOur Family WizardSoberLinkJoin our free private Facebook communityUpcoming Divorce Meditation SeriesSubscribe & ReviewIf How Not to Suck at Divorce has helped you navigate divorce with more confidence, we'd be incredibly grateful if you'd subscribe, leave a rating, and write a review. Your support helps more people find trustworthy divorce guidance when they need it most.www.ratethispodcast.com/notsuckConnect With UsWebsite: www.hownottosuckatdivorce.comFacebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1HNN44whZq/InstagramYouTube Check out Our Family Wizard- the most court respected coparenting app. We are the only podcast that can offer you 20% of your first year!www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck20Keywordsdivorce advice, divorce podcast, divorce lawyer, divorce settlement, divorce mindset, divorce emotional healing, divorce mediation, child custody, divorce strategy, unfair divorce settlement, accepting divorce, co-parenting, family law, healing after divorce, divorce supportMentioned in this episode:Smarter Way to Sell Your Jewelry After my divorce was finalized, I sold my old engagement ring to a jeweler — and honestly, I was stunned by how little I got for it compared to what it originally cost. If I could do it all over again — which is kind of the theme of this podcast — I would have sold it through Worthy. Worthy is a modern, smarter way to sell your jewelry online. Their process is incredibly easy: they cover shipping and insurance, professionally clean and photograph your jewelry, and have it graded by experts to help maximize its value. What makes Worthy different is that they create a competitive
- 3 weeks ago38 min
Divorce Cyberstalking: How to Prevent it and What to do If You Think Your Ex is Watching You Online
Divorce Cyberstalking: What to Do If You Think Your Ex Is Watching You OnlineDivorce Crash Course: Don’t make expensive divorce mistakes.Our Divorce Crash Course walks you through the biggest legal, financial, emotional, and co-parenting mistakes people make during divorce — and how to avoid them.Typically priced at $150, available now for just $50, thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and Soberlink.Start the course here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseCyberstalking during divorce can make you feel unsafe, paranoid, unsteady, and completely overwhelmed.But here’s the thing: sometimes what feels “crazy” is actually a real digital safety issue.In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and Morgan L. Stogsdill are joined by Steven Bradley, a former FBI task force leader, cybersecurity expert, domestic violence specialist, and cyberstalking educator, to talk about what to do if you think your ex is watching, tracking, monitoring, or digitally harassing you during divorce.And yes — this episode is scary.But more importantly, it is actionable.Steven explains that cyberstalking is often easier than people realize because many exes already know your passwords, security question answers, shared devices, family routines, Wi-Fi setup, smart home devices, and personal information. Cyberstalking is not always some dramatic hacker-in-a-hoodie situation. Sometimes it is access to your Amazon Alexa, Ring doorbell, Nest thermostat, pet camera, cloud account, location sharing, shared passwords, or old devices.In other words: your ex may not need to “hack” you if they already have access.Terrifying? Yes. Useful to know? Also yes.In this episode, we cover:How cyberstalking can show up during divorceWhy many people dismiss early warning signs as “coincidences”How smart home devices can be used to monitor or harass someoneWhy shared passwords and security questions are a major riskWhat to do if you think your ex has access to your phone, email, cloud, or devicesWhy you should not delete suspicious messages or evidenceHow to create a timeline of cyberstalking concernsWhen to tell your divorce attorneyWhy co-parenting apps can help protect communicationHow VPNs, multi-factor authentication, and anti-malware tools can helpWhy public Wi-Fi can be riskyWhat parents should know about children’s apps, gaming, and DiscordWhy taking action can lower paranoia and help you feel saferFirst signs of cyberstalking during divorceCyberstalking can start small.You may notice:strange text messagesanonymous calls or emailsyour ex showing up where you aresmart home devices acting strangelylights, thermostats, or cameras changing unexpectedlyunfamiliar apps on your phonelogin alertsodd account activitysomeone seeming to know things they should not knowSteven explains that many offenders start with small behaviors and escalate when they feel they can get away with it. That is why it is important not to dismiss everything as coincidence, especially during a high-conflict divorce or custody battle.What to do if you think you are being cyberstalkedSteven’s first action step is simple:Do not delete anything.Preserve texts, emails, screenshots, suspicious messages, device alerts, app changes, login warnings, and anything that feels off. Create a timeline. Write down what happened, when it happened, where you were, and what evidence you have.Digital evidence can be time-sensitive, and some data may disappear or overwrite itself. The sooner you document, the better.Tell your divorce attorney earlyIf you believe you may be dealing with cyberstalking, do not wait until it becomes unbearable.Tell your attorney.Morgan explains that divorce lawyers may need outside experts to help connect the dots, preserve evidence, and explain what is happening in a way the court can understand. Cyberstalking can be technical, and many attorneys and judges are not cybersecurity experts.This is not about panicking.It is about protecting yourself, documenting what is happening, and getting the right people involved early.Secure your digital lifeSteven recommends assuming your passwords may be compromised and taking steps to secure your digital life.<
- 3 weeks ago9 min
Divorce: How to Stay Grounded When Everything Feels Unsteady
Divorce: How to Stay Grounded When Everything Feels UnsteadyDivorce Crash Course: Don’t make expensive divorce mistakes.Our Divorce Crash Course walks you through the biggest legal, financial, emotional, and co-parenting mistakes people make during divorce — and how to avoid them.Typically priced at $150, available now for just $50, thanks to our angel underwriters, Our Family Wizard and Soberlink.Start the course here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseDivorce can make everything feel unstable.Your home, your routines, your finances, your parenting schedule, your future — all of it can feel like it’s shifting under your feet. So how do you stay grounded when the divorce process feels anything but steady?In this mini episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport shares a simple but powerful grounding reminder from her own backyard: be like the tree.Yes, really.After staring up at the big, mature trees in her yard, Andrea reflects on how trees survive season after season. They lose leaves. They lose branches. They weather storms. But because their roots run deep, they remain standing.And honestly? That is a pretty perfect divorce metaphor.This episode is a calming reminder for anyone going through divorce, considering divorce, or recovering from divorce anxiety. You may feel overwhelmed, reactive, scared, or completely unsteady right now — but that does not mean you are going to be taken down by this process.You may lose some leaves. You may lose a branch. You may look and feel different on the other side.But you will still be here.You will still be strong.You will still be you.Andrea also talks about how spending time outside, planting flowers, caring for something living, and reconnecting with nature can be a surprisingly grounding way to manage divorce stress and anxiety.No, you do not need to become a full horticulture goddess. You do not even need to know if “horticultury” is a word.But you may need a plant.Or a pot.Or a tree to stare at for a minute while you remind yourself that you are more rooted than this moment feels.In this episode, Andrea talks about:How to stay grounded during divorceWhy divorce can make you feel emotionally reactiveHow nature can help regulate stress and anxietyWhy trees are the perfect metaphor for surviving divorceHow to calm your nervous system when life feels unstableWhy divorce is a marathon, not a sprintHow small grounding practices can help you through hard daysWhy you will still be standing after this storm passesThis episode is for you if:You are feeling overwhelmed by divorceYou are struggling with divorce anxietyYou feel emotionally reactive or unsteadyYou need a quick grounding reminderYou are trying to get through a hard divorce dayYou need reassurance that you will survive this processYou want a calming mini episode that does not feel overly woo-wooDivorce is unsettling. It is emotional. It can feel completely unhinged.But you do not have to become unhinged with it.When in doubt, be like the tree.Stay rooted in who you are. Stay grounded in what you know. And remember: you are going to get through this.You’ve got this. And we’ve got you.Listen to How Not to Suck at DivorceWebsite: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/Podcast: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/podcastDivorce Crash Course: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseSEO Keywordsdivorce anxiety, divorce stress, how to stay grounded during divorce, grounding during divorce, divorce meditation, divorce mini episode, coping with divorce, emotional regulation during divorce, divorce support, divorce podcast, divorce advice, how to get through divorce, divorce healing, divorce overwhelm, divorce nervous system, stress during divorce, nature and anxiety, How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport, Morgan StogsdillMentioned in this episode:
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How Not to Suck at Divorce Action Steps That Save You Money. Humor That Saves Your Sanity. Honesty That Helps You Heal. Most people make expensive divorce mistakes before they even understand the process. Before you spend thousands learning those lessons the hard way, check out our Divorce Crash Course—a $150 program available for just $50. It walks you through exactly what to do before, during, and after divorce so you can protect your finances, avoid costly mistakes, and make smarter decisions from day one. Divorce is one of the hardest things you'll ever go through—but getting through it doesn't have to cost you your financial future, your peace of mind, or your sense of humor. Hosted by comedian-turned-marketing expert Andrea Rappaport and powerhouse family law attorney Morgan L. Stogsdill, How Not to Suck at Divorce helps you navigate life before, during, and after divorce with relatable conversations, practical legal insights, and honest discussions about the emotional side of starting over. Every episode is designed to help you avoid expensive mistakes, better understand the legal process, communicate more effectively, and make decisions you'll still feel good about years from now. Whether you're wondering if divorce is the right decision, in the middle of litigation, struggling with co-parenting, or rebuilding your life afterward, we're here to help you feel less alone—and a whole lot more prepared. Because divorce isn't just a legal process. It's an emotional one. And sometimes the best thing you can do is laugh, take one small step forward, and remember that you don't have to figure it all out by yourself. BEFORE DIVORCE Thinking about divorce? We'll help you prepare before you make one of the biggest decisions of your life. Learn how to protect yourself financially, emotionally, and legally before you ever file. DURING DIVORCE From custody and parenting plans to communication, negotiation, finances, and high-conflict personalities, we'll help you make smarter decisions while avoiding the mistakes that cost people the most. AFTER DIVORCE Because divorce isn't the end of your story. We'll help you rebuild your confidence, your finances, your relationships, and your life. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN How to avoid costly divorce mistakes How to reduce unnecessary legal fees Divorce preparation before hiring an attorney Custody and parenting plan strategies Co-parenting and parallel parenting Communication techniques that protect your case Financial planning during divorce Property division and asset protection Negotiation strategies Emotional healing after divorce Recovering from high-conflict relationships Rebuilding your life after divorce You'll also hear conversations with leading experts in family law, psychology, finance, digital safety, parenting, and trauma recovery, alongside honest discussions about what divorce actually feels like—and how to get through it without losing yourself in the process. At its core, How Not to Suck at Divorce is about helping you make better decisions during one of the biggest transitions of your life. Not by overwhelming you. Not by talking over your head. But by giving you action steps that save you money, humor that saves your sanity, and honesty that helps you heal. You've got this. And we've got you.
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