Episode 289: Brian Baumal | Perfectionism, Shame, and Food Addiction Recovery

In this episode of Food Junkies, Dr. Vera Tarman and Clarissa Kennedy sit down with Brian Baumal, a registered psychotherapist based in Toronto and owner of Aliva Psychotherapy, where he specializes in weight management, eating disorders, food addiction, and psychological support for bariatric surgery patients. Brian trained at the Gestalt Institute of Toronto and has been a licensed member of the College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario since 2015. He's also a food addict in long-term recovery, having lost 100 pounds and kept it off for over 14 years. Brian shares the moment that changed his understanding of food addiction forever — an intense, addictive reaction to a piece of chocolate at a holiday party that made him realize this was on an entirely different scale than an ordinary craving. From there, the conversation dives deep into perfectionism: how shame and diet culture create an idealized, unrealistic self-image; the difference between adaptive perfectionism (using structure and tools in service of recovery) and toxic or maladaptive perfectionism (an all-or-nothing mindset that treats any slip as total failure); and how perfectionism can quietly become a "runaway train," redirecting obsessive focus from food onto weight, exercise, or other behaviors. Brian also explains how he uses a Gestalt therapy lens — treating what shows up in the room between therapist and client as the material for the work itself — to help clients build individualized, flexible recovery plans instead of rigid, punishment-driven rules. The group discusses distinguishing an addictive relapse from a psychological or shame-based slip, the role of relapse plans and "gathering data" after a slip, and why using tools (scales, timers, structure) isn't a sign of weakness but a sustainable part of long-term recovery. The episode closes with Brian's reflections on chairing the Sugar and Food Addiction Professionals Network, a free Facebook community of nearly 200 food addiction professionals offering training, research updates, and access to leading voices in the field. Topics Covered Brian's personal food addiction story and his "aha moment" with chocolate at a holiday party What Gestalt therapy is and how it approaches defense mechanisms relationally How shame and diet culture create unrealistic, idealized self-images Adaptive vs. maladaptive (toxic) perfectionism in recovery Perfectionism as a "runaway train" — when focus shifts from food to weight, exercise, or other behaviors Distinguishing an addictive relapse from a shame-driven psychological slip Building individualized, flexible abstinence and relapse plans Using tools (scales, timers, structure) without turning them into self-punishment Vulnerability factors: trauma, family food dynamics, anxious or over-controlled personality styles Adaptive perfectionism as flexibility, not the absence of high standards The Sugar and Food Addiction Professionals Network on Facebook Connect with Brian Baumal Website: Aliva Psychotherapy — https://alivapsychotherapy.com/ WORKSHOP LINKS: 🚨Curious why cravings hit harder some days than others? Viktoria Hamma's two-part Circadian Rhythms & Red Light Therapy workshop breaks down the biology behind your body's internal clock and shows you exactly how morning light, meal timing, and red light therapy can work with your recovery instead of against it. Grab your spot for Part 1: <a href= "https://sweetsobriety.