Coach Lee

Your Avoidant Ex Isn’t Over You: Understanding Deactivation

September 10, 2026·6 min
Episode Description from the Publisher

Your avoidant ex may seem completely over you. They may appear cold, detached, and completely certain about the breakup. But what looks like moving on can sometimes be something very different: deactivation. Watch on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GhzCGxomEJ4 In this episode, Coach Lee explains how avoidant attachment can cause someone to shut down or lose access to feelings that were once very real. He also discusses why pursuing an avoidant ex can reinforce their need for distance, how no contact can change the emotional dynamic, and why memories and feelings may begin to resurface once the pressure is gone. If your avoidant ex seems unaffected by losing you, don’t assume that what you’re seeing right now tells you the whole story. Get the Reunion Blueprint at ReunionBlueprint.com Get the Free Mini-Course on Saving A Marriage at MarriageRadio.com Book a Coaching Session With Coach Lee at MyExBackCoach.com/coaching

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