172. They Need You to Be the Villain: Why Explaining Yourself Never Works

Some people don’t want to clear things up. They need the version of you that makes their story make sense. In this episode of Call Her Creator, we’re talking about what happens when you finally stop sending the paragraph, showing the receipts, replaying the conversation, and trying to change the minds of people who are committed to misunderstanding you. I’m breaking down the psychology behind confirmation bias and belief perseverance, why some people only liked you when you were easier to swallow, and why becoming the person you’ve always wanted to be might require disappointing people who preferred the old version of you. But we’re also going somewhere uncomfortable: What if sometimes you actually were the villain? We’ll talk about the difference between taking accountability and making shame your identity—and why growth isn’t getting everyone you’ve ever hurt to approve of who you’ve become. If you’ve ever wasted hours defending your character, spiraling over someone else’s version of you, or wishing you could explain yourself just one more time, this episode is for you. Let them misunderstand you and tell the story. Let them think you’ve changed. You have a life to build. Resources Mentioned: ✨⁠ The Visibility Vault™⁠ – 150+ Canva templates + done-for-you captions to help you stay consistent and get seen online. Thank you to our sponsors: Shopify: Launch your business with Shopify. Start your one-dollar-per-month trial here: shopify.com/chc Whatnot: The live-selling marketplace where you can shop, sell, and discover unique products: whatnot.com Storyblocks: The essential toolkit for telling better stories with unlimited stock video, audio, and creative assets: ⁠www.storyblocks.com/chc