J-O Clubs

Sam and Grayson pull back the curtain on j-o clubs — the men's group events that have run quietly across the country since 1980. What they are, why they're one of the lowest-pressure ways for a bi or curious guy to explore in person (no apps, no flakes, no ghosting), how to find one near you, and what to expect inside: the rules, the consent culture, wristbands and first-timer orientations, admission and lockers, and what a typical night looks like — from big, well-run clubs to a smaller one with its own house style. Plus club etiquette, watching vs. joining in, 'finishing' considerations, and more. Also: host updates, the Word of the Week, a mini-topic on underwear, and the Resource of the Week. Heads up: 18+, adults only. Disclaimer: The hosts aren't medical or mental-health professionals. Nothing here is medical, legal, or psychological advice — speak with a qualified provider about your own health and relationships. Word of the Week — Frot: short for frottage (from the French frotter, "to rub"), sexual rubbing between men, usually penis-to-penis, with no penetration. A staple of j-o clubs and an easy one-on-one option. Frot toy: CockBlock Toys [https://cockblocktoys.com/] makes a two-person frot sleeve. Key terms: "No lips below the hips" (jacking only, no oral) and "no poles and holes" / "nothing goes inside anybody's anything" (no penetration) are the standard club rules. Commando: no underwear. Finding a club: Start with the New York Jacks club list [https://nyjacks.com/links] — NY Jacks is the original (est. 1980) and the template most clubs follow. Not on the list? Search your nearest major city plus "jack-off club" or "masturbation group." Clubs mentioned: Rain City Jacks [https://raincityjacks.org/] (Seattle) and Stumptown Strokes [https://stumptownstrokes.com/] (Portland). Underwear (mini-topic): Coyote Jocks [https://coyotejocks.com/] for briefs and jockstraps. Resource of the Week: The Heart of Jacks podcast [https://www.theheartofjacks.com/], hosted by the founder of Rain City Jacks, on the history and culture of j-o clubs. The series has wound down (no new interviews), but the back catalog is worth a listen. Next episode: Our guest Marcus shares his bi journey. Listen and subscribe here [https://pod.link/6797092436], and a rating or review helps other men find us! Connect with us: Email podcast@bimenunfiltered.com with questions, topics, or your own story (write "OK for air" if we can read it on the show — and if you'd like to come on as a guest, same address). Find us at @BiMenUnfiltered on Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61591794119108], Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/bimenunfiltered/], Threads [https://www.threads.com/@bimenunfiltered], and X [https://x.com/BiMenUnfiltered], and at BiMenUnfiltered.com on Bluesky [https://bsky.app/profile/bimenunfiltered.com].