Exploring With Toys

Toys aren't just for women, and nothing you put in your butt changes who you are. Sam and Grayson open their collections and talk through cock rings (silicone, metal, and how to size one), glans rings, masturbation sleeves, dildos, prostate massagers, and butt plugs, plus body-safe materials, flared bases, and why you should never store silicone toys touching each other. Grayson shares how his wife's years selling home-party sex toys stocked his drawer, and why his first prostate massager seemed like a waste of money until he stopped trying so hard. Sam reports back from his first spanking party. Plus: a listener's story of being blackmailed after chatting on apps, and why bi men need community. Heads up: 18+, adults only. Disclaimer: The hosts aren't medical or mental-health professionals. Nothing here is medical, legal, or psychological advice — speak with a qualified provider about your own health and relationships. If you're struggling: In the US, call or text 988 or visit the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline [https://988lifeline.org/]. Free, confidential, 24/7. Find your people: r/BisexualMen [https://www.reddit.com/r/BisexualMen/] on Reddit and its support Discord (not a hookup server). Word of the Week: P-spot — the prostate, a walnut-sized gland a few inches inside the rectum toward the front of the body. It's packed with nerve endings, can be stimulated internally or externally through the perineum, and feels good regardless of orientation. Other terms: Perineum: the skin between the balls and the anus, a.k.a. the taint. Cock ring: a silicone, rubber, or metal ring worn around the base of the penis (and usually the balls) to keep blood in for firmer erections. Glans ring: a ring worn just behind the head of the penis. Flared base: a wide base that keeps a toy from slipping all the way inside. Non-negotiable for anything going in your butt. Body-safe: made of non-porous materials like silicone, glass, or stainless steel. Peepshow Toys' materials guide [https://www.peepshowtoys.com/pages/body-safe-sex-toy-material-guide] explains what to look for. Aftercare: the care partners give each other after play, whether that's a hug, rubbing the area, or checking in. Toys and brands mentioned: Aneros [https://aneros.com/] prostate massagers (the Helix, Eupho, and Progasm), Primal Rings [https://primalrings.com/] metal cock rings, Perfect Fit Xact-Fit 3-packs [https://www.peepshowtoys.com/products/perfect-fit-xact-fit-silicone-cock-rings-3-packs-incremental-sizes] for finding your cock ring size, the Njoy Pure Wand [https://www.njoytoys.com/], SquarePegToys [https://squarepegtoys.com/] silicone plugs, and Fort Troff [https://ft-troff.com/]. Not sponsors. What toys work for you? Tell us, especially if you just tried your first one. Next episode: Am I bi enough? The question almost every bi man asks himself at some point. Join us. Listen and subscribe here [https://pod.link/6797092436], and a rating or review helps other men find us. Connect with us: Email podcast@bimenunfiltered.com with questions, topics, or your own story (write "OK for air" if we can read it on the show — and if you'd like to come on as a guest, same address). Find us at @BiMenUnfiltered on Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61591794119108], Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/bimenunfiltered/], Threads [https://www.threads.com/@bimenunfiltered], and X [https://x.com/BiMenUnfiltered], and at BiMenUnfiltered.com on Bluesky [https://bsky.app/profile/bimenunfiltered.com].