Better After Divorce

You Can't Flirt In A Body You're Not Feelin'

June 23, 2026·33 min
Episode Description from the Publisher

You Can't Flirt in a Body You're Not Feelin' You know that half-second delay when you catch your reflection and think — that's not me. Or it is. It's just not the me I expected to see. And somehow you're supposed to go on a date feeling like that. This week we're talking about the body you're actually dating in right now. Not the one you're waiting to get back to. Not the one you had ten years ago. This one. Today. Because you can't flirt in a body you're not feelin' — and most of us in midlife are somewhere between making peace and making war with the body we're in. IN THIS EPISODE → The body betrayal nobody talks about — peace isn't the same as appreciation → How attraction didn't disappear — it just relocated → Need is thirsty. Desire is dessert. The difference changes everything. → The pure green light — what dating from fullness actually looks like when you get dressed for a date → The validation trap and why either way you lose when you look for it in him → The way out — falling in love with the woman living in this body right now REFERENCE → Read the companion article on Substack: Dating in a Body You're Just Not Into coachivy.substack.com IF THIS EPISODE RESONATED Send it to the woman in your life who's been harder on her body than she's ever been on anyone else. She needs to hear this. RESOURCES MENTIONED→Find Your Pattern — Download the Dating Pattern Guide→Want to go deeper — Schedule Your Pattern Breakthrough Sesson→ Send your Red Light Green Light scenario to: coachivy@lifecoachivy.com — subject line: RLGL→ Loving the show? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify — I read every one, and yours might be featured on a future episode. CONNECT WITH COACH IVYInstagram: @coachivyallenFacebook: CoachIvySubstack: Better Dating After Divorce 

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