Anxiety to Confidence - The Personal Development Unplugged Podcast

#488 Your'e Not Who You Think you Are

August 28, 2026·33 min
Episode Description from the Publisher

You're Not Who You Think You Are Who the f*ck am I? That was the question that dropped into my head while I was sitting with my puzzle book. And what started as a bit of quiet thinking took me somewhere I didn't expect. We often confuse who we are with what we do. I'm a therapist. I'm a parent. I'm a partner. I'm successful. I'm anxious. I'm confident. But those are roles, behaviours and experiences. They aren't necessarily our identity. So who are we underneath all of that? I started thinking about Superman, Spider-Man, Batman and Wonder Woman. They all have different identities, different roles and different ways of showing up in the world, but underneath the costume there's something deeper: values, purpose, a calling and a direction. And perhaps that's true for us too. In this episode, I explore identity, self-discovery, personal growth, purpose and finding your North Star, along with a simple process for meeting the different versions of yourself and asking one rather interesting question: Which one is pretending to be you? I also share how my puzzle book has become a surprisingly powerful tool for thinking, asking better questions, exploring the unconscious mind and finding my way through change. This isn't me teaching you who you are. It's me sharing what I'm discovering about myself and inviting you to explore alongside me. Because maybe we're not here to find ourselves once and for all. Maybe we're here to keep discovering who we're becoming. Enjoy every heartbeat. What You'll Explore Why we can confuse our roles and behaviours with our identity The difference between what you do and who you are How self-discovery can reveal parts of ourselves we've overlooked Why values and purpose may matter more than rigid goals Finding your calling and personal direction My North Star approach to personal development A simple process for exploring the different versions of yourself How a puzzle book can help uncover thoughts, ideas and unconscious insights Why leaving a question unfinished can sometimes be surprisingly useful How to use curiosity and reflection for personal growth A Question For You Which version of you is pretending to be you? And perhaps the more interesting question: Who's noticing them all? Don't forget to share or should I say REMEMBER to share this episode https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/488-youre-not-who-you-think-you-are And if you want to me recording this episode <a hre

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