E 371: You Are More Than Your Diagnosis: BPD, Childhood Trauma & Reclaiming Your Voice with Dene Dubois

What happens when a diagnosis finally gives you an explanation for why you've struggled—but then starts becoming another label you carry?In this jpowerful episode, I sit down with Dene Dubois, for an incredibly open conversation about borderline personality disorder, childhood trauma, abandonment, trust, shame, relationships, and what it means to take your personal power back.Dene shares his experience growing up in a deeply dysfunctional home with a mother struggling with bipolar disorder and a father dealing with alcoholism and compulsive gambling. He also opens up about receiving a BPD diagnosis at age 50 and the complicated relationship he's had with that label.We talk about something I see so often in my own work with adult children: the fear of abandonment, difficulty trusting others, intense emotional reactions, people pleasing, and that immediate assumption of “What did I do wrong?” when someone pulls away. Denis gives a powerful real-life example of how something as simple as an unanswered message can activate those old fears.But this conversation goes far beyond a diagnosis.We explore the difference between understanding a label and becoming the label, why shame doesn't create healing, and how the things we once viewed as weaknesses can sometimes become part of our purpose.Dene has taken his lived experience and created BPD Raw as a place where people can speak honestly about mental health without hiding behind clinical language or stigma. His message at the end of our conversation says it beautifully:Never let someone silence your voice.If you've ever felt defined by a diagnosis, your childhood, your mistakes, or someone else's opinion of you, this conversation is for you.🔗 CONNECT WITH DENE DUBOISBPD Raw Website:BPD RawFacebook:Follow BPD Raw on FacebookInstagram:Follow Dene on InstagramYouTube:BPD Raw on YouTubeDene also discusses his books The Places I Didn't Belong and Maybe I Did Belong, Hey there, I’m so glad you’re here and tuning in! If this episode spoke to your heart, just know there’s even more support waiting for you.Book Your Free Clarity and Calm Call: No Judgement, just a chat https://calendly.com/tammyvincent/clarity-and-calm-callIf you are curious about where you stand energetically, or just need a frequency boost, book your FREE biofrequency voice scan here: https://calendly.com/tammyvincent/complimentary-scan-demo if you want to take part in an amazing club, where you can get unlimited scans and free coaching every month, sign up here: $25 ($250 Value) Join For One Month Here https://workshops.tammyvincent.com/offers/JQz3QDrr/checkoutIf you would like to ask a question, and hear the answer in a future episode, please leave your question here: https://www.speakpipe.com/TammyvincentcoachingTrials To Triumph: An Adult Child's Emotional Freedom Blueprint: Use code THRIVE25 for 75% off today. https://workshops.tammyvincent.com/offers/DSbcgrZZ/checkoutAs an international inspirational speaker, NLP Practitioner, Trauma-Informed Coach, Neurofit Trainer, and Best-Selling Author, I bring both deep personal experience and professional training to the work I do. I believe in prevention, not just intervention — and use a body, mind, and spirit approach to guide others toward becoming the happiest, healthiest versions of themselves.My holistic toolbox includes nervous system regulation, trauma-informed coaching, nutritional support, and natural healing strategies,🔑 Start