A Superwoman Handbook S3 EP27: 4 Dating Archetypes That Reveal Why Your Relationships Keep Repeating

What if the reason your relationships keep repeating the same patterns is not bad luck, the dating apps, or the people you meet — but the parts of yourself you haven’t healed yet? In this powerful episode of A Superwoman Handbook, Gillian Utesch sits down with Lilli Bewley, a dating coach and creator of the Feminine Dating Archetype Quiz, to explore why true transformation in relationships begins long before the first date. Lilli shares how personal patterns, attachment styles, past experiences, and hidden fears can influence the way we choose partners, communicate, and show up in relationships. Together, Gillian and Lilli unpack why dating advice often fails when it focuses only on strategies instead of the deeper work happening within. Through her own journey of trauma, self-sacrifice, and relationship patterns, Lilli explains how she developed a framework to help women understand themselves, reclaim their voice, and create healthier connections. In this episode, you’ll discover the four feminine dating archetypes: Chill Woman, Fortress Woman, Goddess Woman, and Magnetic Woman, and how each one reveals different patterns, strengths, and areas for growth. You’ll learn why dating triggers can become opportunities for healing, how subconscious beliefs around safety, vulnerability, and worth can shape attraction, and why becoming aligned with yourself changes the way you experience love. Lilli also shares why the goal is not to become someone else to find a relationship, but to understand who you truly are and create connections that match that version of yourself. This episode is for anyone who feels stuck in repeating relationship patterns, has struggled with emotionally unavailable partners, or wants to approach dating with more confidence, clarity, and self-awareness. Whether you are dating after divorce, navigating relationships in your 30s, 40s, or 50s, or simply wanting to understand yourself better, Lilli’s message is a powerful reminder that the relationship you build with yourself shapes every relationship that follows. Watch this inspiring conversation from A Superwoman Handbook and discover how understanding your patterns can help you create a healthier, more aligned approach to love.   Connect with Lilli Bewley: Website: https://www.DatingArchetype.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lillibewley TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lillibewley Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lillibewley YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lillibewley   Connect with Gillian: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gumoney/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/asuperwomanhandbook/ Website: http://brokenglassceilingmarketing.com   Listen & Subscribe Subscribe to A Superwoman Handbook on YouTube, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen to podcasts.   Featured Book Discover more inspiring stories from Gillian Utesch through her book collection, available through the A Superwoman Handbook landing page.   Learn more and explore the books here: https://glassbreaker.gumroad.com/   Video Editing & Social Media Edited by Kaito Kishi Video Editor for A Superwoman Handbook Managing YouTube uploads and social media content.   Connect with Kaito: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kaito-kishi-84564636a/ Email: kaitokishi857@gmail.com   #ASuperwomanHandbook #LilliBewley #DatingArchetype #datingadvice  #relationshiphealing  #womenempowerment  #selfdiscovery  #personalgrowth  #loveandrelationships  #healingjourney  #moderndating  #datingafterdivorce  #podcast  #viral  #trending  #2026