Chapter 158: Sonja Lyubomirsky helps harness happiness by honing hearty habits

​Sonja Lyubomirsky​ is one of the most influential happiness researchers of our time. Sonja moved to the United States from Moscow at age 9 in the 70s. She went to Harvard and Stanford in the 80s and began studying happiness in 1989 ... longer than almost anyone else alive! Positive psychology wasn't "founded" by ​Martin Seligman​ and ​Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi​ for another decade. Sonja has published hundreds of papers including her ​Most Cited 2005 paper​ which defined the field by flipping a long-held assumption on its head: That happiness doesn't follow success but causes it. Sonja is now following up her bestsellers '​The How of Happiness​' and '​The Myths Of Happiness​' with a new book called '​How to Feel Loved​', a joint effort co-written with relationship expert ​Dr. Harry Reis​, which is a culmination of 30 years of research that all point to one central truth: that feeling loved (not just being loved!) is a crucial ingredient of happiness. <p class="ck-paragraph" data-slate-node="element" data-slate-fragment= "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