145. Why Isn't Everyone Priestessing Themselves? with Elayne Kalila

What if the word apocalypse was never about the end of the world, but about what gets revealed once the veils come down? In this episode, Emily Fletcher sits down with Elayne Kalila, a psychotherapist turned priestess and the founder of the Priestess Presence Mystery School, for a conversation that travels 30,000 years back to trace the deliberate erasure of feminine spiritual authority. Elayne walks through the Venus of Willendorf, the moment agriculture and land ownership gave rise to patriarchy, and why the women burned as witches were so often the post-menopausal landowners, healers, and midwives, not young women at all. They also get into Freud's diagnosis of hysteria and its roots in the idea of a wandering womb, why 43 million American women between 45 and 65 are entering their power rather than their decline, and Elayne's own confronting practice for holding the men causing harm on an altar of healing instead of hatred. This is a conversation about rage as initiation, aging as beauty, and what it means to priestess yourself and everyone around you through change. In this episode, Elayne explores: Why the witch burnings targeted post-menopausal landowners, healers, and midwives, not young women How agriculture and land ownership seeded patriarchy 10,000 years ago Why "apocalypse" actually means the lifting of the veils Her altar practice: naming powerful men who've caused harm and calling them into their hearts Freud's diagnosis of hysteria and its roots in the idea of a wandering womb Why 43 million American women between 45 and 65 are entering their power, not their decline Isis and her twin sister Nephthys, and Inanna's seven gates as the oldest map for this transition Why rage in perimenopause is information, not dysfunction Key Moments: 00:00 – Emily's tribute to Elayne, and welcome to Why Isn't Everyone Priestessing Themselves 01:20 – Introducing Elayne Kalila: psychotherapist turned priestess 04:50 – Going back 30,000 years: the Venus of Willendorf and the first evidence of goddess worship 05:42 – How agriculture and land ownership seeded patriarchy 10,000 years ago 06:56 – The witch burnings: who was really targeted, and why 09:59 – The apocalypse, meaning the lifting of the veils 13:34 – The case for the feminine, made directly to the man who thinks this isn't for him 21:48 – Elayne's altar practice: naming powerful men who've caused harm and calling them home 35:42 – What it means to priestess yourself: navigating the unknown without a map 47:54 – Isis and her twin sister Nephthys, and the echo of Inanna and Ereshkigal 50:53 – Hysteria: how a wandering womb became a medical diagnosis for a woman's power 53:04 – 43 million American women are entering perimenopause, and why that's power, not decline 58:05 – Premenstrual rage as information, not dysfunction 1:00:45 – Inanna's seven gates as the oldest map we have for this transition 1:01:54 – Aging as beauty: the story of her partner and her white hair About Elayne Kalila Elayne Kalila Doughty, MA, MFT, is a psychotherapist turned priestess and the founder of the Priestess Presence Mystery School, where she has spent over a decade ordaining women into the Divine Feminine mysteries. She is the author of The Sacred Call of the Ancient Priestess and The Magdalene Rose Oracle, and hosts The Red Podcast. Website: elaynekalila.com Instagram: @elayne.kalila This episode is sponsored by Timeline. Support your mitochondrial health and get 20% off Mitopure at timeline.com/ziva 🔗 MORE FROM EMILY & ZIVA: Join Ziva Insiders: whythis.zivameditation.com Learn Ziva Meditation: preview.zivameditation.com Free masterclass: learn.zivameditation.com Follow us on Instagram: @zivameditation