We're All Insane

I Was Gang Raped at 16

September 20, 2026·2h 48m
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At 16 years old, Kate went to a lake house party with someone she trusted, unaware that the night would change her life forever. After drinking a small amount, she blacked out and spent years trying to understand what happened. Eleven years later, Kate received the case file and discovered witness statements and confessions that gave her a clearer picture of that night. She opens up about the lasting impact on her relationships and mental health, her struggles with depression and OCD, and finding healing through finally telling her story. Check Out Kate:  → Instagram  → Tiktok Sponsored By: → Wayfair | Find furniture, decor, and essentials that fit your unique style and budget. Head to https://Wayfair.com right now to shop all things home. → HERS | Ready to reach your goals? Visit https://forhers.com/insane to get personalized, affordable care that gets you. On This Episode We Cover:  → 00:00:00 - Introduction → 00:02:18 - What Was Kate’s Childhood Like? → 00:04:56 - What Led to Her Being Sent to a Wilderness Camp? → 00:09:12 - What Was the Wilderness Camp Experience Like? → 00:15:08 - What Were the Rules and Conditions Like at the Camp? → 00:20:34 - What Happened to Kate at 16 Years Old? → 00:22:20 - How Did Kate Know Nick? → 00:26:24 - How Much Did Alcohol Play a Role in What Happened? → 00:27:16 - What Happened on August 11, 2009? → 00:28:36 - Why Did Kate Feel Like She Wasn’t the “Perfect Victim”? → 00:31:22 - What Happened When They Arrived at the Lake House? → 00:35:02 - What Does Kate Remember From the Assault? → 00:40:00 - What Happened After She Woke Up? → 00:45:00 - When Did Kate Begin Telling People What Happened? → 00:50:00 - Why Did She Decide to Report the Assault? → 00:53:16 - How Many People Later Confessed About That Night? → 01:00:00 - Why Did She Feel Like Other Survivors Had Been Through Something Worse Than Her? → 01:08:04 - What Did She Discover When She Finally Got the Case File? → 01:21:08 - How Did the Assault Affect Her Relationship With Sex? → 01:23:18 - Why Was One of the Witnesses Reluctant to Testify? → 01:25:00 - What Did Karen Say Happened That Night? → 01:37:16 - Who Else Was Present and What Did They Know? → 01:39:12 - What Did Samantha Remember From That Night? → 01:42:02 - How Long Did the Assault Continue? → 01:46:06 - What Did Garrett Tell the Detective? → 01:48:16 - Why Did Nick Refuse to Speak With Police? → 01:50:18 - What Did Jared Say About Whether Kate Had Been Drugged? → 02:10:02 - What Kind of Therapy Did She Do to Help Heal? → 02:19:20 - How Can Survivors Take Back Their Power? → 02:21:08 - How Can Talking About Trauma Help With Healing? → 02:27:18 - How Has She Worked on Her Mental Health and Emotional Regulation? → 02:30:52 - How Did She Get Through One of the Hardest Periods of Her Life? → 02:35:36 - How Did Her Breakup Affect Her Mental Health? → 02:38:06 - Why Did She Finally Start Talking About Her Intrusive Thoughts in Therapy? → 02:40:48 - What Does Moving Forward Look Like for Her? Further Listening → My Boyfriend Trafficked Me To His FriendsMore We Are All Insane: → OFFICIAL MERCH NOW AVAILABLE - code INSANE10 gets you 10% off for a limited time → Join We’re All Insane Mailing List for EXCLUSIVE Content + Discounts  For ad-free, uncensored videos and plenty of exclusive content please subscribe to the We Are All Insane subscription channel at https://wereallinsane.supportingcast.fm/. It's $5.99 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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