Why You Should Stop Trying to Fix Your Heartbreak (And What to Do Instead) with LiYana Silver

Relationship coach and author Liyana Silver joins Catherine Llewellyn to explore how heartbreak, divorce and life's darkest seasons can become profound portals of transformation. Drawing on her own experience and her work with women, couples and groups, Liyana shares what she has learned about the Dark Night of the Soul, the phases of heartbreak, and why the depths can reveal a more authentic and aligned version of ourselves. They discuss the importance of allowing difficult emotions to move through us rather than trying to think or strategise our way out of them, how nervous-system support can help during the most acute phases, and why the right kind of support depends on where we are in the journey. This is a compassionate conversation about finding wisdom, courage and ultimately greater aliveness in the midst of profound change. #DarkNightOfTheSoul #HeartbreakHealing #TruthAndTranscendence Where our conversation went: 00:00 Welcoming Liyana Silver and exploring the meaning of depth 01:39 How a difficult post-birth experience introduced Liyana to the Dark Night of the Soul 03:26 Naming the experience and discovering that it can be a transformational journey 06:00 Becoming an apprentice to the dark and mapping the terrain of heartbreak 09:35 The ancient wisdom and archetypal patterns within dark nights of the soul 12:58 Feeling difficult emotions fully and allowing them to move through 13:58 The wisdom of “the poison is the medicine” 15:17 Why transformation is not a makeover—and why dark nights may come more than once 17:40 Helping people through books, individual work and couples work 20:00 Supporting a partner who is going through their own dark night 22:47 Men, emotional development and the courage to enter unfamiliar territory 25:50 Why nervous-system stabilisation may need to come before deeper relationship work 27:40 The importance of support, soothing and allowing ourselves to be held 29:08 The dissolution phase: when everything is falling apart 31:12 The task in the deepest phase: breathe, get through the next moment and soothe the nervous system 31:44 Trusting that the phase will pass and allowing transformation to unfold 32:54 Why strategising and problem-solving are not always the answer 34:22 Liyana’s books and the gentle, spacious way she supports people 35:40 A message for the “depth dwellers” and everyone travelling the depths #podmatch #EmotionalHealing #ConsciousRelationships #SpiritualGrowth Where to find Liyana Silver: Website: https://liyanasilver.com Books: Waking Up in the Dark Night of Divorce; Feminine Genius The Heartbreak Transformation Map https://liyanasilver.com/map  ✦ Stepping more deeply into your Calling? Book a Clarity Call with Catherine: https://beingspace.world/clarity 🤝 Join our Being Space Community ✦ Podcast: https://truthandtranscendence.com ✦ Podcast: https://www.podpage.com/different-points-podcast/ ✦ Website: https://www.beingspace.world ✦ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@BEINGSPACEcatherinellewellyn ✦ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beingspace.world/ ✦ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BeingSpaceWorld ✦ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@beingspace.world Support the podcast: https://truthandtranscendence.com/donate