18 Building a Life With More in It Part 3 of 3: Capacity

What happens when life doesn't give you the option to say no? In the final episode of the three-part capacity series, Cara gets personal — sharing the season of change, grief, and relentless busyness that led to a complete physical shutdown in January 2021, and what it taught her about what it actually costs to keep overriding your body's signals. She talks about the non-negotiable yeses — caregiving, illness, teenagers who need a taxi — and what it looks like to build enough capacity that the hard seasons don't hollow you out completely. Plus: a four-question audit to assess what your life is actually doing to your capacity, and the practical tools that make the difference between surviving a hard season and being resourced enough to meet it.------*A note on how this podcast is made: Beginning in Season 2, I started using AI as a creative collaborator in the production of To Be Her Now.Every story, idea, and perspective you hear in this podcast is mine. The experiences are really lived by me. The voice is really mine. AI doesn't generate my content — it helps me give it structure and form, the same way a great editor or writing partner might. Think of it as a very smart sounding board — one that helps me shape outlines, refine scripts, and find the right words for what I already know I want to say. I also use it to quicken and streamline the editing process.I believe in being honest about the tools I use, because this show is ultimately about closing the gap between who we are and who we're becoming — and that kind of becoming has to be rooted in truth.