The Secure Husband

Can a Dismissive Avoidant Wife Become More Sexual Toward Me? (Sex and the Dismissive Wife Podcast Series)

July 28, 2026·21 min
Episode Description from the Publisher

Can a dismissive avoidant wife become more sexual, affectionate, and open to intimacy? Many husbands ask this question after years of rejection, distance, and little sexual initiation. The honest answer is yes, change is possible. But no husband can force desire or guarantee the outcome.In this episode, Bruce Abbott explains how emotional safety, attachment, trust, hormones, personality, and relationship history can affect sexual desire. You will learn why pressure, guilt, scorekeeping, hidden tests, and repeated talks about sex often make desire harder. You will also learn why healing your anxious attachment should not become another way to earn sex or control your wife.A Secure Husband focuses on what he can control. He becomes honest, calm, clear, and emotionally safe. He communicates his needs without making his wife responsible for his worth. He creates better conditions for intimacy while accepting that his wife still has her own choices.Some dismissive avoidant wives become more affectionate and begin initiating sex. Others change slowly or very little. The goal is not to turn your wife into someone else. The goal is to build a safer marriage and become a secure man, no matter what happens next.If you would like help applying these ideas to your marriage, schedule a free 30-minute consultation at SecureHusband.com. It is simply a conversation about what is happening in your marriage and how coaching might work for you. No sales pitch. No pressure. Just a chance to see if it is a good fit and how I can help.If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.#deadbedroom  #DismissiveAvoidant #SexlessMarriage #MarriageAdvice #AttachmentStyles #RelationshipAdviceAll content is for informational purposes only and does not provide medical or psychological diagnosis or treatment. Always consult your physician before starting any treatment or therapy. This includes all content on this site, email, blogs, podcasts, social media, and events. Nothing shared constitutes medical or legal advice. Use of this information is at your own risk.

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