The Mental Healness Podcast

Why Narcissists Use You As A Placeholder (Even When You Give Them Everything)

July 26, 2026·15 min
Episode Description from the Publisher

In this video, I speak directly to the people who keep taking a narcissistic partner back, hoping that one day they’ll finally pick you, appreciate your sacrifices and see your worth. As a clinically diagnosed, self‑aware narcissist, I explain why putting up with cheating, lies, abuse and low effort does not make you more valuable to them, it makes you more expendable, and why they resent you for seeing them at their worst. You’ll hear how narcissists view you as a placeholder, why a “diamond in the wrong hands is just a paperweight,” and why they often discard the very person who helped them level up in life. If you’ve paid their bills, helped them get degrees, raised kids and still got abandoned, this video will give you language and perspective to understand what really happened and why their inability to value you is about them, not your worth. I’ll also give you homework: to ask yourself why being picked by this person feels so important, so you can start choosing yourself instead.Contact me here - ⁠https://link.me/mentalhealness

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