Episode 126 How To Build Your Teen's Confidence with Fehintoluwa Alawonde

Why do so many teens struggle with confidence—even when they seem “fine” on the outside? In this powerful conversation, I’m joined by Fehintoluwa Alawonde to unpack what’s really going on beneath the surface for today’s teens—and how parents can support them in building a strong, grounded sense of identity. Because confidence isn’t something we can force or fix. It’s something that develops through safety, connection, and self-understanding. In this episode, we explore: Why teen confidence is more fragile than it appears How identity is shaped during adolescence (and what can disrupt it) The hidden impact of pressure, comparison, and social expectations What teens actually need from parents (it’s not what you think) Practical ways to support your teen without pushing them away If you’ve ever worried about your teen’s self-esteem, independence, or sense of self—this episode will give you a new lens and practical tools to show up differently. 💛 Because raising a confident teen doesn’t start with changing them… It starts with how we relate to them. Fehintoluwa Enny is a wife, mum, health professional, youth mentor, and coach, as well as the founder of Quantum Impact Hub. For over 15 years, she has walked alongside teenagers, creating safe spaces where they feel seen, heard, and confident in who they are becoming. Alongside her extensive mentoring experience, she is currently advancing her formal coaching training, deepening her expertise in helping young people build clarity, resilience, and purpose. She also serves in a leadership role within her healthcare profession, where she is passionate about growth, excellence, and people development. Through Quantum Impact Hub, Fehintoluwa partners with parents and guardians to raise emotionally intelligent, purpose driven teens who understand their identity and step boldly into their future. Seeing a young person find their voice and strength is not just her work, it is her calling. *************************************************************************************** Anne Alvares is a parent coach, educator, and the founder of the Masterful Parenting Program, known for helping families build stronger, healthier relationships through relational parenting and healing from childhood wounds. 🧠 Background & Experience Anne has over 20 years of experience working with families as a school counsellor, teacher, and parent coach. She has spent 15+ years supporting teens and their parents, giving her deep insight into emotional development and adolescent challenges. She’s also a mother of two, bringing firsthand parenting experience to her work. 🌱 Her Story & Approach Anne’s coaching is shaped by her personal healing journey—she grew up experiencing childhood pain, including abuse, controlling parenting, and being parentified. This inspired her to heal those patterns and not repeat them with her own children. Her mission is to help parents understand how their own childhood experiences influence their parenting, and to guide them in building confidence, connection, and emotional awareness. 💡 What She Teaches Anne specializes in: Relational Parenting: Prioritizing connection and understanding over control. Healing from childhood pain so parents don’t unconsciously repeat old patterns. Practical strategies to strengthen communication and connection with children. Support through one-on-one coaching, group programs, and online courses focused on emotional regulation and relational skills   Access The Masterful Parenting 9 Week Course HERE 👇 https://annealvares.systeme.io/masterfulparentingcourse   Book You FREE 30 minute Parenting Strategy Session**:https://calendly.com/annealvares   www.annealvares.com https://www.facebook.com/masterfulparenting https://www.youtube.com/@masterfulparenting https://www.instagram.com/masterfulparenting/