
Why do some people describe rope as a pathway into trust, presence, and altered states of consciousness?In this episode I sit down with Mark DeViate — Dominant, rope practitioner, polyamorous relationship veteran, and long-time member of the BDSM community, to explore the psychology of surrender, ethical dominance, and the transformative potential of connection-based kink.We explore:• The psychology of ethical dominance.• Shibari, rope bondage, and surrender.• Topspace, flow states, and altered consciousness.• Performance-based kink vs connection-based kink.• Long-term polyamory and relationship longevity.Research article: The Biology of BDSM: A Systematic ReviewSupporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? Register Here.The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out here.Visit psychologyofdesire.com to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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