The Truth About Loss & How To Navigate Your Grief with Rebecca Feinglos

Loss is inevitable, and it’s an essential part of being human.What can often end up happening though, is we experience our grief as a sign of weakness.We try to put on a brave face and jump straight back into work as if nothing ever happened. But the truth is, pushing our grief down doesn't make it disappear.That’s a reality today’s guest knows intimately.Rebecca Feinglos is a certified grief support specialist, the founder and CEO of Grieve Leave, and the host of the Grief’d Up podcast.After losing her mother to brain cancer as a teenager, Rebecca became a master at hiding her pain. It was almost a badge of honor to seem perfectly fine.But when her father suddenly passed away in early 2020, and she navigated a divorce shortly after, the illusion that you can compartmentalize your grief was completely shattered.Rebecca took a dedicated 'year of grieve leave’ and today, she reaches millions, offering honesty, humor and real tools to help people navigate their darkest moments.Whether you are grieving the death of a loved one, the end of a marriage, or any major life transition, you're going to discover how to hold space for your feelings without losing your momentum, how to truly support the people around you, and how experiencing your lowest lows can ultimately lead to your deepest joy.In This Episode, You Will Learn:Why pretending your grief isn’t happening is the biggest mistake you can make.How to utilize the wave model and the pendulum model to better navigate loss.The truth about the five stages of grief and why it was never intended to be a linear model for everyone.How to properly show up for a colleague or friend who is navigating a difficult season.Why practicing being alone can drastically shift your identity and build your self confidence.What We Discuss:00:00 - Episode Opener and Introduction to the Podcast01:14 - Podcast and Guest Intro02:59 - The Biggest Grief Mistake05:50 - High Achievers And Duality07:20 - Childhood Coping And Compartmentalizing13:58 - Father Passes Away During Covid21:20 - Grief Changes Over Time23:49 - Freedom After Rock Bottom28:18 - Finding Safe Relationships34:15 - Learning You Are Safe39:10 - Practicing Being Alone41:42 - Self Talk On Solo Dates44:25 - Reference Points Story Setup44:47 - Grasshopper Meets Ants45:18 - Reference Points Framework46:11 - Past Present Future Self Talk49:14 - Grief Anniversary Waves53:02 - Making Space At Work54:56 - Workplace Culture And Retention58:40 - Be A Workplace Villager1:02:15 - Authentic Support Scripts1:06:20 - Beyond Death Grief1:10:46 - Disenfranchised Grief Explained1:15:04 - Better Grief Models1:19:10 - Rapid Fire Your Edge1:21:42 - Basketball As Connection1:24:05 - Where to Connect and ClosingFollow Rebecca: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rfeinglos/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rfeinglosFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rfeinglos/Grieve Leave Website: https://www.grieveleave.com/Grieve Leave Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/grieveleaveFollow Cameron:Instagram: https://instagram.com/cameronatlasYouTube: https://youtube.com/cameronatlasFacebook: https://facebook.com/cameronatlasLinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/cameronatlas Newsletter Sign Up: https://cameronatlas.comBook Cameron to Speak: https://cameronatlas.com/speaking