The Trust Wound: Why Being Vulnerable Feels So Dangerous

I used to chase accomplishment hard, and I dismissed soft skills and people skills entirely — mostly because I had no idea how to do them. I'd put on this dissociated charm self when I met new people, which wasn't connection at all. It was a disarming move. If I could charm you first, you couldn't get to me. Underneath all of it was a deep fear of being publicly rejected. A close colleague of mine has the same wound and it looked nothing like that from the outside. Hers came out as passive ag...