Stop Shrinking Yourself: Real Women on Losing Their Identity to Covert Narcissistic Abuse and Getting It Back

Have you ever looked in the mirror and not recognized the person staring back at you? If you've been in a relationship with a covert narcissist, chances are you know exactly what that feels like. In this CNG Community Chat, I sit down with three women who each experienced the slow, painful erosion of identity that comes with covert narcissistic abuse. We talk about the moment they realized they had been making themselves smaller, the specific turning points that opened their eyes, and what the journey back to themselves has actually looked like. From walking on eggshells and reactive abuse, to physical symptoms like panic attacks, chronic pain, and autoimmune flares — these women share the full picture of what narcissistic abuse really does to a person. More importantly, they share what life looks like on the other side. Whether you are still in the relationship, just finding your way out, or deep in your recovery journey, this conversation will remind you that you are not crazy, you are not too sensitive, and you were never the problem. Topics covered in this episode: How covert narcissistic relationships slowly erase your identity The physical toll of narcissistic abuse on your nervous system and body Recognizing reactive abuse and the moment of clarity that changes everything People pleasing, boundaries, and the pushback you get when you finally set them What taking up space looks like in real life after narcissistic abuse Advice for anyone who is afraid to stop shrinking themselves The content on this podcast reflects the personal experiences and opinions of the host and guests and is intended for informational and educational purposes only. Nothing shared here constitutes professional mental health, medical, or legal advice, and should not be treated as such. The experiences shared are individual and may not reflect every situation involving narcissistic abuse or toxic relationships. If you believe you are in an abusive relationship or are struggling with your mental health, I strongly encourage you to seek support from a licensed mental health professional who is trained in trauma and abuse. If you are in immediate danger, please contact your local emergency services. Results and experiences discussed on this podcast are not guaranteed and will vary from person to person. Some names and identifying details may have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.