Subjective

Check On Your Strong Friends

June 12, 2025·28 min
Episode Description from the Publisher

In this episode, I’m unpacking what it means to be the “strong friend.” The one who’s always checking in but never checked on. The one who performs strength so well, no one realizes she’s falling apart.I share personal stories of how I learned to suppress my emotions, why I thought crying made me weak, and how I built an identity around being dependable and “fine”, even when I wasn’t. I open up about the quiet expectations that formed in childhood, how I used to “practice” being strong in unhealthy ways, and the turning point where I realized: I never wanted to be strong. I just didn’t have another option.This episode is a love letter to every strong friend who’s tired, and a wake-up call to the people who never ask how she’s doing.—🖤 JOIN THE SUBJECTIVE COMMUNITY:🎧 Listen on Spotify/Apple: https://beacons.ai/subjectivepod⁠📝 Read the newsletter/Substack: https://thesubjectivepod.substack.com/⁠ 📲 IG / TikTok: @TheSubjectivePod📸 IG @_DonyelleMurray 📥 Business: subjective@donyellemurray.com🔗 LINKS + MENTIONS: Community Receipts: https://beacons.ai/thesubjectivepod/receiptsresourcesHave a burning question? Need advice? Or want to share your wildest, craziest story? Submit your question, request advice, or share an experience you want to know how I’d handle in the '⁠⁠⁠What Would Donyelle Do⁠⁠⁠?' segment on Subjective. https://docs.google.com/forms/d/13QwIYqeb_bYz9Z0LNHV1RWtAHWqrEUX2f7XfaE5dfpQ/edit✨ Reviews help us grow and reach more listeners—thank you for your support!📅 Upload Schedule: Episodes are available every other Friday on your favorite podcast platforms and on YouTube. Make sure to subscribe so you never miss a new upload!

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