Fail Without Shame: John on Mental Health Stigma, Misinformation, and Owning Your Flaws

Host Abhra speaks with Melbourne-based counselor and media creator John of Your Listener Counseling about reframing failure and reducing mental health stigma. John argues that society overemphasizes success, causing people to mislabel learning experiences as crippling failures and to shame themselves, and he links stigma around mental illness to a broader stigma against “failing” to meet societal expectations. He critiques both shaming and denial-based “positivity,” using autism as an example of how calling challenges a “superpower” can avoid acknowledging real difficulties, and emphasizes accepting flaws, working on change when possible, and accommodating what cannot be changed. They discuss shallow mental-health messaging, emotional exploitation and misinformation in media, the need for critical thinking, and core self-care pillars such as introspection, deliberate decision-making, meaningful activity, and valuing human connections. John Cuturilo is a counsellor, writer, and podcast host in Melbourne, Australia. He conducts therapy with a diverse range of clients and specialises in working with complex trauma and relational matters. His seeks to address shortcomings in common practice by being versatile, educative, empowering, and relatable, integrating humanity and lived experience with evidence-based methods. As a writer and host, he educates his audience about how psychology applies to their lives, encouraging them to be more critical, constructive thinkers. He eschews politics and popular rhetoric for a pursuit of objective reality and nuanced analysis. Find him at: www.yourlistener.com.au -------------------- Follow Us on Social Media:   Facebook https://www.facebook.com/storiesandstanza/    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/storiesandstanza/    YouTube @storiesandstanza    Join Our WhatsApp Channel  https://wa.openinapp.link/wjcwe    X https://x.com/storiesnstanza Follow Us on Audio Podcast: Listen on Spotify https://spotify.openinapp.co/storiesandstanza  Listen on Apple Podcast https://apple.openinapp.link/u3ui2 Read on Substack https://openinapp.link/ion0e -------------------- Want to grow on YouTube? Try vidIQ: https://vidiq.com/storiesandstanza  Want to edit your Podcasts in a breeze? try Descript: https://get.descript.com/stories-and-stanza  Buy me a coffee https://ko-fi.com/storiesandstanza ----------------