Habits of Highly Charismatic People

The manosphere wants you to think charisma is all about dominance and control. But what if it’s actually about deep presence and social courage?I don’t want to be like the guy who uses scarce communication to hide his lack of depth and fear of commitment. I want to be like the people who make you feel cool just by talking to them, while radiating charisma themselves.If you’ve ever wondered why some people can have fun talking to literally anyone, struggled to know what to say when someone asks you a question, or wished you were more comfortable saying what you actually think, this episode is for you.In today’s episode, we unpack 5 habits of highly charismatic people, from what they say when they’re getting to know someone to how they navigate disagreements. Along the way, we’ll talk about what we can learn from Socrates about swag, dive into the science of answering any question well, and use Byung-Chul Han’s concept of “the smooth” to investigate how we can stay raw and real in a world that tries to sand our edges.EPISODE OUTLINE: HABITS OF HIGHLY CHARISMATIC PEOPLE00:00 Intro07:14 1. How to ask better questions 08:18 The science of how asking questions makes people like you 10:18 The power of follow-up questions13:41 2. How to answer any question without freezing 14:37 The scary thing no one tells you about writing a book 17:11 Why your mind goes blank when someone asks you a question 18:03 The secret to answering questions with ease 20:21 The link between storytelling and charisma22:40 3. Stop performing agreement in conversations 23:18 What is backchanneling? 23:59 Upspeak, confidence, gender, and the way we talk 26:05 Should we actually backchannel less?28:58 4. How charismatic people handle disagreement 30:27 What Socrates can teach us about intellectual humility32:14 5. Stop treating human connection like a formula33:36 Byung-Chul Han and “the smooth”36:13 Btw you’re not a chad for wanting to be loved39:04  Lightning round recap40:44 Poem: Small Kindnesses by Danusha LamérisMY LINKSMy debut poetry collection MAKE BELIEVE is out everywhere now⁠⁠Subscribe to Soul Gum’s new instagram :-) ⁠Follow me on ⁠Instagram⁠ and ⁠TikTok