#504 How to Dirty Talk Without the Cringe with Dr. Shannon Chavez

This week, we’re joined by Dr. Shannon Chavez, a leading voice in modern sexual wellness and one of the incredible experts teaching at our next Shameless Sex Couples Retreat! Dr. Chavez is a licensed clinical psychologist, AASECT-certified sex therapist, professional sex coach, and founder of SHAPE Psychology. Her work brings a holistic, culturally inclusive approach to sex, relationships, and pleasure—and helps make conversations about sexuality feel more accessible, meaningful, and shame-free. In this episode, we’re getting into one of the sexiest—and sometimes most awkward—topics: dirty talk! How do you make it feel authentic instead of forced? What if you feel totally uncomfortable saying “naughty” things out loud? And how do you figure out what actually turns you and your partner on? We talk about: What Dr. Chavez is hearing from clients about dirty talk: Are people into it, wanting more of it, or feeling intimidated by it? Why dirty talk can feel so vulnerable, awkward, or difficult—even when you’re turned on The different styles and forms of dirty talk, and how to find what works for you A step-by-step approach to making dirty talk feel more natural and authentic How to build confidence and discover your personal dirty-talk style How to know what to say in the moment (without feeling like you have to perform!) Talking about boundaries and consent around erotic language How couples can create their own shared erotic language And how to move past shame and self-consciousness so you can actually enjoy talking dirty Whether you’re a seasoned dirty-talker or the mere thought of saying something sexy out loud makes you want to crawl under the covers, this episode will give you practical tools to make erotic communication feel more natural, playful, and connected. Learn more about Dr. Shannon Chavez at http://drshannonchavez.com. Follow here on IG: @drshannonchavez Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠our book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ now! Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shamelesssex.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Wish List⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow us on IG ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@shamelesssexpodcast ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about our retreats: https://www.shamelesssex.com/retreat Other links: Get 10% off getting soaking wet with code SHAMELESS at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://soakingwet.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get turned on anywhere, anytime with Dipsea + get a week FREE and then 25% at http://dipseastories.com/shameless Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://uberlube.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get 15% off the best sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://purepleasureshop.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Work with some of our favorite sexual health and hormone specialists at ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://swanmd.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ + mention Shameless Sex for a discount