Why Sex Hurts: Healing Painful Sex + Owning Your Pleasure & Badass Confidence with Nicoletta Heidegger

Episode 175: Pleasure, Pain and Creepy Fantasy's with Nicoletta Heidegger  In this juicy + deeply validating episode, I sit down with the incredible Nicoletta Heidegger — Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (#110256), award-nominated Sexologist, and host of the hit podcast Sluts & Scholars. Nicoletta specializes in sex therapy and Equine Assisted Psychotherapy, offering virtual sessions and sessions at her unique ranch office in Los Angeles. She’s Stanford and Pepperdine educated, holds a Master’s in Human Sexuality from Widener University, and is known for her shame-free, sex-positive approach to healing and pleasure.We go all the way in on a topic so many women deal with silently:Pelvic floor pain and shame around sex.We unpack:• Why pain during sex is actually not normal (even though many of us were told it is)• How shame, fear, and survival responses show up physically in the pelvic floor• Where pelvic tension, pain, numbness, or tightness actually come from• How to begin healing through nervous system regulation + somatic release• How to find the right pelvic floor therapist or sex-positive specialist• What real embodied healing looks like — not just “relaxing”• The power of fantasy, desire expression, and permission to be a little wild• And yes… the unexpected serial killer fantasy conversation (you’re welcome 😈)There are also some very real, very funny, very human moments — because healing can be messy, sacred, and hilarious all at once.This episode is for you if you’ve ever felt:• Shame around your pleasure• Confused by your body• Disconnected during intimacy• Or like you were “broken”You’re not broken. You’re just holding more than your body knows how to process — and that can change.💜 Share this with someone who needs to know they’re not alone Your pleasure is not only allowed — it’s sacred.Follow me on Instagram Instagram.com/sexybizbabepodcast and tag and share your favorite clips or episodes! Feel free to share clips on social and tag @sexybizbabe Follow Nicoletta - @therapywithnicoletta or @slutsandscholars