Sexology

EP487 - When Desire Fades: Exploring the Hidden Reasons

April 21, 2026·32 min
Episode Description from the Publisher

Welcome to episode 487 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I am excited to be joined by Courtney Faye Long, who speaks to me about understanding and resolving lost desire in long-term relationships. In this episode, we talk about a common problem that many couples in long-term relationships have: the natural change and sometimes loss of sexual desire. When a partner's interest seems to fade, it's easy for our minds to jump to the worst possible conclusions. But in reality, it's often because of mismatched expectations, not a lack of attraction. Courtney and I talk about the myth of rushing through physical intimacy and why treating sex like a race often makes people feel disconnected.  Courtney Fae Long, MSW, LC, CHt, is the creator of Sex Life Makeover and TEDx speaker whose work has been featured in NBC, Forbes, MSN, and Psychology Today. She specializes in highly sexual women who feel frustrated and unfulfilled. She holds a Master’s Degree in Social Work (MSW) and certificates in Sexuality Education and Sex Therapy from the University of Michigan and has been teaching for 25+ years. Courtney brings a lighthearted, joyful approach to sex. In this episode, you will hear: ●      The Myth of Sex in Football Style●      Physiological Requirements for Extended Warm-ups●      Going from Hustle Culture to Presence●      The Idea of Foreplay All Day●      Changing the Way We Do Date Night●      How Mothering Changes Kill Sexual Desire●      The Risks of Pretending to Enjoy and Have Orgasms●      Talking About Changing Sexual Preferences●      Growing the Parasympathetic Nervous System●      The Twenty-Minute Cuddle and Connect Exercise Ebook Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On InstagramPodcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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