118: Healthy and Unhealthy Debate in Your Company - How to Know the Difference

When smart teams can wrestle with ideas and build on each other's input to get to the best ultimate solution, it is where companies thrive. When it is done well it is truly a thing of beauty, and this type of ability is what unlocks the most innovative companies in the world. When this turns unhealthy or people begin to debate in a drama-filled way, it can lead to some of the biggest detrimental effects to company culture. In this episode, Alex shares exactly what healthy debate looks, feels, and sounds like from a Reality-Based low drama perspective, and gives you a few practical tools and techniques you can bring in if some of your discussions tend to get heated and cross a line. Here is the link to the Negative Brainstorming tool that Alex mentioned: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AV6n69QCVnY&list=PLZWrCbJ7Bukuwek8D2y-6QAyGFAiuiB9a&index=2 Here is a link to learn how to share input in the form of expertise (and not opinions), which Alex mentioned in the video. This is a skilled and respectful way to debate ideas and move forward productively when adding your perspective: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wLBUIVTzVIE&list=PLZWrCbJ7Bukuwek8D2y-6QAyGFAiuiB9a&index=4 Episode Highlights 00:03:09 Are you debating the what or the how? 00:05:01 Are you playing the wrong role in the conversation? 00:08:01 Is your team still fighting a decision that's already been made?  00:08:59 What is the negative brainstorming tool, and why does it work? 00:12:53 How do you turn post-decision frustration into forward motion? 00:15:04 What happened when one company ran a "break it" session before a major rollout? 00:19:18 Can shared language defuse tension before a hard conversation even starts? 00:23:01 Are you disagreeing with the idea, or attacking the person? 00:25:03 Why won't facts change someone's mind if facts didn't get them there? 00:27:39 What's your biggest tell that debate has turned unhealthy?