Beyond the Labels — Controlling What You Can with Tori DaCosta

What if… the labels you’ve carried for years were never meant to define you—and the freedom you’ve been looking for begins by focusing on what you can actually control?This conversation with Tori De Costa is about identity, resilience, and what happens when you stop living the life you inherited and begin building the one that’s actually yours.Some labels are handed to us.Some we pick up ourselves.Some conversations don’t hand you answers.They hand you a mirror. And sometimes… that’s exactly what you need. The beautiful part?You don’t have to keep carrying the labels that no longer belong to you. 🛤️ Running someone else’s track — the quiet moment success stopped feeling like purpose.🎯 Control. Manage. Influence. — three simple words that can change how you carry almost anything.🤝 Control has a boundary — if another human is involved, what you have is influence.💬 “Mind your business.” — the childhood lesson she had to unlearn before she could truly lead.🔥 Another degree wasn’t the answer — purpose asked a different question.❤️ Bullies don’t stay on the playground — and neither does courage.🌱 The shortcut nobody wants — why hardship became her fastest path to growth.🌿 Life isn’t happening to you — the mindset that changed everything.📖 The book title everyone questions — and the identity conversation hiding underneath it.✨ What still belongs to you — even after every label falls away.This episode isn’t here to fix you.It’s here to remind you that you don’t have to control everything to move forward. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is release the labels that no longer fit, hold tightly to what you can control, and trust yourself enough to keep taking the next step.We’re really, really glad you’re here. 💛Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/radical-joy-with-james-bullard--5644728/support.🌹🧡🟡🌳🔷🟪🤎🖤❔  ❤️🍊🟨💚💙💜🟤🖤❕❕Take care of yourself, take care of each other, and breathe!  ❤️🍊🟨💚💙💜🟤🖤❕❕  🌹🧡🟡🌳🔷🟪🤎🖤❔  Got something on your mind? James never runs out of things to say, so tell us what you want to discuss!   Remember there is no shame in joy or for asking for what you need.  Leave a review, send us a screenshot, and we’ll mail you a sticker! See you next FRIDAY for another dose of Radical Joy.  James is not a therapist, but you’re not alone. If you're in crisis, call 988 for professional help.  For non-emergencies, Psychology Today can connect you with support and therapists who fit your needs.  This podcast and CLW Studios content are not therapy or a substitute for it. Guest opinions are their own.  We're here for insight and encouragement but always seek professional support when needed.  This episode was Produced and edited by Kerri J of CLW Studios