Most People Are Dating on Autopilot

You think your dating choices are yours… but there's invisible rules shaping your sex, love, and identity. However, there is a disruption that queer, kinky, and non-monogamous people are leading, exposing amatonormativity, and the fantasy of desire that isn’t actually yours. To break down how to unlearn, rebuild, and finally choose yourself, we put Feeld’s new Reflections tool to the test; because self-discovery shouldn’t feel like homework. The script stopped working. Now what? Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink CONTACT AIANO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aiano_/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queer_homemaking CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: queer.collective.to@gmail.com 00:00 intro 00:54 Do we make our own choices? 07:44 The bedroom crossover 16:54 Subliminal beliefs we hold 25:50 social rewards and punishments 34:01 ananormativity 29:44 grow out if it 44:49 compulsory heteronormativity 46:43 can't name it can't claim it 50:31 finding your true desires 53:11 scary things that won't kill you 57:39 are you happy? Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.