Be Cringe, Be Free: The Psychology of Refusing to Perform

Be Cringe, Be Free: Authenticity, Shame, and the Cost of Performing the Self"Be cringe, be free" sounds like a joke about dancing badly in public. Dr. Leslie Poston makes the case that it's actually a question psychology has been thinking about for decades: why does being yourself in public feel so dangerous, and can dropping the performance actually change anything beyond your own life? This episode draws on Goffman's front stage and back stage selves, Winnicott's true self and false self, Brehm's reactance theory, Gilbert's social rank theory, Tangney's research on shame and guilt, Gilovich's spotlight effect, Meyer's minority stress theory, Keltner's work on embarrassment, and Deci, Ryan, and Neff on autonomy and self-compassion, to ask what it actually costs to keep performing, and what it takes to stop.00:00 Be Cringe Be Free01:07 Life as Theater02:48 True vs False Self04:37 Reactance and Pushback06:14 Where Cringe Fear Comes From08:04 Spotlight Effect Reality Check09:03 Minority Stress and Real Risk10:23 Embarrassment vs Defiance11:57 Autonomy and Self Compassion13:57 Freedom as Collective Change14:33 Outro and Research InviteLINK TO PARTICIPATE IN DR. POSTON'S NEXT RESEARCH STUDY: https://bit.ly/4fCx52d (linked form will deactivate when study is full) ★ Support this podcast ★