Parenting from the Body, Not Just the Head: Helping Dads Break Old Patterns | Duncan R.| Ep294

This episode helps dads understand why they keep reacting the same way — and how to change it without shame or self-hatred.In this conversation, Jey Young and Duncan Rich explore the challenges fathers face in managing stress and emotional regulation. They discuss how societal models of masculinity can lead to feelings of overwhelm and inadequacy among dads. Duncan emphasizes the importance of understanding one's nervous system and adopting a bottom-up approach to emotional regulation, which focuses on bodily awareness rather than cognitive strategies. The discussion also highlights the significance of vulnerability, presence, and the impact of emotional patterns passed down from fathers to sons. Ultimately, the conversation encourages fathers to take responsibility for their emotional well-being and to prioritize self-care as a means of fostering healthier relationships with their children. takeawaysMost dads feel overwhelmed, not angry.Dads want to be patient but often struggle.Emotional patterns from childhood affect fatherhood.Vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness.Stress responses start in the body, not the mind.Co-regulation with others helps manage stress.Children learn emotional regulation from their parents.Self-care is essential for effective parenting.Acknowledging feelings is crucial for connection.Change takes practice and patience.Chapters00:00 Understanding Overwhelm in Fatherhood06:19 The Model of Masculinity and Its Impact11:04 Taking Responsibility for Change16:16 The Bottom-Up Approach to Emotional Regulation22:29 The Importance of Presence and Connection26:37 Navigating Stress and Presence as a Parent29:15 The Challenge of Staying Present in Difficult Moments35:12 Understanding Emotional Patterns Passed from Father to Son43:00 Advice for New Dads: Prioritizing Your Happiness