We’ve Had 20 Foster Kids… And No Regrets | The Rowlands

We’ve had 20 foster kids and we haven’t regretted a single one. Not even the 18‑month‑old who showed up two weeks before our newborn. It’s been the hardest thing we’ve ever done, and we’re still choosing to break our hearts on purpose over and over again for the sake of the gospel. In this episode, Logan and JC share what that’s actually looked like in real life: six kids in the house, constant goodbyes, a front yard full of toys, and an ongoing awareness that they are absolutely not the heroes of the story.We talk through the fears (what this will do to our bio kids, feeling totally inadequate, drowning in the chaos), the impact on their daughters, how their view of biological parents has radically shifted, and why they now see fostering as one of the clearest ways to live out the gospel. We get into how the church has shown up, how hard it is to learn to receive help, what happens when kids leave, and the small rituals and anchor scriptures that keep them going. If you’ve ever thought, “I’d get too attached,” or “I’m not enough,” this conversation sits right in the middle of that tension and points to the only place our adequacy really comes from. CHAPTERS:00:00:00 Intro 00:01:54 Meet Logan And JC 00:03:40 First Placement Whirlwind 00:04:22 Life With Six Kids 00:06:19 How The Call Began 00:08:31 Orientation And On Board 00:11:34 Fears And What Ifs 00:17:58 Impact On Bio Kids 00:19:24 Grace For Birth Parents 00:26:15 Inadequacy And Not Hero 00:32:34 Acts 17 Rest And Trust 00:34:32 Trust Not Cop Out 00:35:20 Complexity And Dunning Kruger 00:36:07 Hope Justice Made Right 00:38:10 Church Support In Practice 00:39:50 Helping Bio Families Upstream 00:43:05 Learning To Receive Help 00:45:34 Need More Foster Community 00:49:45 Heartbreak And Gospel Goodbyes 00:53:52 Rituals When Kids Leave 00:55:54 Encouragement For Future Parents 01:00:48 Moments Of Grace That Sustain 01:03:19 Final Thanks And Wrap Up